In our early human history we used physical weapons against the predators that surrounded us. We still need to protect ourselves emotionally from the dangers to our personal boundaries.
Sometimes these threats are intentional but more often they are caused by the unthinking blundering of other humans who don’t even realize that they are intruding.
It is our job to reinforce and strengthen our own boundaries. As counterintuitive as it may seem, it is our ability to protect ourselves emotionally that allows us to be open and vulnerable when it is appropriate!
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Humans have always had “mantras” against the evil eye. If we expand on this concept – the need for a physical expression of protection - we can understand that it empowers us – first it creates an awareness of danger and then an act to metaphorically shield us from the negativity.
People wear all sorts of talismans ...
Have all sorts of sayings …
Make many different gestures…
Can you think of a few examples?
In modern society we tend to minimize the importance of these gestures and tokens. However, another way of thinking about them is that they allow us to be proactive by first reminding us to recognize things that are often harmful – criticism, bullying, scolding, comparisons, jealousy - and then to remember that we can actually choose how we allow these things to impact us!