Tuesday, June 4, 2019

YEAH, IT MUST BE OLD AGE…

"I lost my keys again," she moaned.  "It must be old age!" 

Okaay… I've known her a long time and wanted to remind her that she's been losing those keys for the last 20 years…

"My diabetes is getting worse," he groaned slurping down his second dish of ice cream.
Uh huh…
"I'm just not as strong as I used to be," the third one complained, glued to the tv for the evening…

What do ya say?
What's your favorite excuse?  How does that work for you?

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LOSER?

Fair, not fair, fair share…
Seriously toxic concepts when it comes to human experience.
Who could have been cruel enough to feed these no-win concepts to tiny growing beings?
Because of course, it is at those young, impressionable moments when we're fed this hogwash.
Why hogwash?  Think about it…
How often does this formula actually pan out - and if it doesn't what does it imply about you?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

DROP THESE JUDGEMENTS!
Fair…
Why me?
Give yourself permission to do what you can to lower stress:
  Deep breathing…
  Find laughs…
  Ask for help…
  Create beauty…
  Look for the light…
  Find the positive 'take away' - the learning.



Tuesday, May 28, 2019

ONE FOR YOU AND ONE FOR ME…

"You've had more than your fair share of difficult things," she said.
Whoa!


What a concept!
Does this really compute?
Who is meting out these shares?

What do ya say?  You don't buy into this one, right?


Wednesday, April 10, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LOOKING FOR THAT LIGHT…

Life has a lot of darkness - just a reality. 
If we choose to focus on those dark shadows, another reality is that we increase our suffering!
If we go to the 'they done me wrong' songs, the 'why me' tunes,the 'it's not fair' stories, we draw attention to those dark places… where it is really easy to get stuck!
The alternative is to acknowledge the shadow places and people, to look for solutions, to reach out for help and to acknowledge the positive energy that can get focused as we pay attention to small shifts!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHAT ARE YOU PUTTING IN?
Remember that old saying 'garbage in, garbage out'?
While we often don't have control over what occurs we do have control over the stories we tell ourselves about it!
Think about this past week:
When difficult things happened, what did you tell yourself about what they said about you and your reality?
Did what you told yourself make life easier as you dealt with things… or did you increase your own suffering?






Tuesday, April 9, 2019

CAN YOU SEE IT?




'It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. ... Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that's when you're most beautiful.'
                                   
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/victor_hugo_131142

What do ya say?
Does this make sense to you?
Do you practice it?

  

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - GET YOUR MAGIC ON!

All those visual and auditory tokens - the chants, the prayers, the amulets - they are reminders of our power, our connectedness to others, to traditions, to humanity…
To the magic inherent in all of us if we just let ourselves tap into it!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS   
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
WHERE'S YOUR MAGIC?

Identify your touchstones…
Are they auditory? (Chants, prayers, songs, rhythms)?
Kinesthetic? (Repetitive movements, dance)?
Visual (jewelry, stones, shrines, flags)?

HOW STRONG IS YOUR INTENTION?
Try this experiment:
Consciously state your emotional, physical goal.
Say to yourself as you look at your touchstone, put it on, touch it, sing it…
"My intention is_________"
"This is to remind of __________"
"When I look at this I will remember_______"
Here are some choices to fill in those blanks:
    Healing
    Strength
    Awareness
    Love
    Kindness



Tuesday, April 2, 2019

GOT AMULETS?

The 'Cloak of Invisibility'?


Those bracelets of Wonder Woman?


The Shield of…
A Hamsa, a rabbits foot?
Is it the object itself that has the power…
or the intention we feel and OWN when we wear it?
What do ya say?
You get the concept, right?


Wednesday, March 27, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - TURNING IT IN

Why do we attack ourselves when something goes wrong?
Easy target?
Illusion of control?  You know, 'if I caused it, I can fix it'?
And how did we develop this self inflicted pain strategy?
Did you ever come home from school and tell your parents about a problem… and their first response was:  "Well, what did you do to cause it?"
Hmmm…

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

UNDOING RETROFLEXION
You can think about it like this: 
Something happens and we have a reaction - an energy surge.  At this point we have a choice about what we do with that energy…
We can direct it out into the world in many different ways or…
We can direct it inward and use ourselves as the target.
Think about the last time something like this happened to you…
What choice did you make about how to direct your energy?
Did your choice work well for you?
Might another choice have been more effective?






Tuesday, March 26, 2019

GO GET 'EM BOSS!

I was watching this tiny bird today… It was viciously attacking its own reflected image in a shiny object.
ATTACK!  ATTACK!  ATTACK!
And then it backed off - for a minute or two…
But the draw was too strong!
And it was back even more ferocious than before!


Whoa!  Does this remind you of anything?

What do ya say?

Been there?

Thursday, March 21, 2019

SAY WHAT?

I thought they cared about me!


But really if they did care they'd…
After all, that's what I would do!


Yikes!
What do ya say?  Is this type of thinking painful, or what?

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LISTEN TO ME!

What is it that compels us to tell others what to do?
Is it a desire to help?
To be heard?
To feel smart?
To empower ourselves?
And really how often is it solicited?b
How often is it listened to?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

GIVING ADVICE?
Think about how you feel when others tell you what you should do…
     How often do you take their advice?
     How useful is this type of interaction?
     How do you feel when you 'help' others in this way?
     What happens when the advice is 'bad'?
     Who suffers the consequences?


    


Tuesday, March 19, 2019

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO IS…

Heard on the street:
"You should get surgery for that!" the man insisted.
"Really?" the recipient of his wisdom asked.

"Yeah," he continued.  "My wife had the same thing and she had surgery…"

"Oh, and how is she?"

"Well, not so good… but…"

What do ya say?  Does this make sense to you?

Thursday, March 7, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHO'S ANGRY NOW?

Is anger okay?
Sure.
It's part of our make-up.
Is hidden anger okay?
Depends on who we're hiding it from…
Ourselves?  Not so good.
Other people?  That's a choice we can make.
And what about the 'format' of our angry response?
Can we hit, kick, scream and call names like a child in the grip of the 'terrible two's'?
NOT EVEN CLOSE!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

AN ANGER REVIEW
Think about the last time you recognized you were angry.
What caused that response in you?
How would you rate your reaction? (1-5, one is great, 5 sucks)
Did you acknowledge what you were feeling?
How did you deal with the 'offender'?







Tuesday, March 5, 2019

DOWN IN THE DUMPS?

Why do we get so angry - with ourselves - when our best laid plans go kerplaff?
What, you say you don't get angry?

Just depressed?
Hellooo…
Wake up call!


What do ya say?
Can you recognize your anger?



Thursday, February 28, 2019

NITE MUSIC

"I woke in the middle of the night obsessing," she moaned.
"I just kept going over and over everything I've ever done wrong in my whole life!"
Her friend was listening and nodding his head.
"I do that all the time," he agreed. 


"But usually mine is shorter term," he grinned sadly.
"I only deconstruct the past week, going over all the 'shoulda', 'coulda', 'woulda's'…

What do ya say?
Ever do this?
No?

What species did you say you were?

Thursday, February 21, 2019

PAIN AND SUFFERING

Ever notice how some people complain ALL THE TIME!
Obviously, we are not talking about that fun sharing between friends or dealing with legitimate issues…
NO.

These people have a cold and not only 'share' every gross symptom but also make it sound like they are dying of pneumonia!


Now, here's an interesting thought:
Besides being incredibly annoying to others, how do you imagine this behavior affects the kvetches?
What do ya say?  You don't do this, right?


Friday, February 15, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHAT DID YOU SAY?

So, what is communication?
Is it that which is received?
Or, that which is actually said?
What's the goal?
Is it competitive or cooperative?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS  
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT TWO RECENT CONVERSATIONS…
Conversation #1 worked out great…
Conversation #2 turned into an argument…
What made the difference?
Was the goal sharing or was it proving yourself  'right'?
Was there a 'winner'?







Thursday, February 14, 2019

ARE YOU LISTENING?

"It felt like I was going nuts!"
The woman was clearly stressed as she told me her story.
"I was talking to a friend", she continued, "and my friend started attacking me about something I said…"


"Except it was actually the opposite of what I said and no matter how I tried to tell her, she just got angrier and attacked me more!"

"It was surreal, I felt like I had been teleported to another dimension!"
What do ya say?
Ever been here?  How did you feel?