Tuesday, September 30, 2014


Have you heard of it?

Ladybugs use it as a last resort when predators get too close and all else has failed... 
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The predators think they are already dead and very few animals go for dead meat…


Think about it.

Might we humans have our own brand of reflex bleeding?

What do ya say?

Ever play victim?

How do you think we learned that one?

Friday, September 26, 2014


Random, perhaps, but those 'measuring moments' can also be useful. (Check out Wednesday's post)

True, if you allow them to trigger your inner Bully - "scold, scold, scold"-  they create pain. 

If however you use them as moments to non-judgmentally review where you are, what you have accomplished and where you want to go next - remember the mini- steps - then they can be invaluable times of reflection, renewal and re-direction!

An opportunity to experiment with some fun


1)  Stop - breathe and think evaluation NOT de-valuation!

2)  Remember whereever you are right now has value - use it to learn and stretch!

3)  Count Coup - Be honest about what you have accomplished! 
Maybe you've taken the road less traveled?  Yay you!

Where have you been?
What have you done?
Who have you learned from?

4)  Give yourself - right where you are now - at least 5 appreciations.  This is really important!

Thursday, September 25, 2014


Part of our focus and joy on the Human Dance Blog is to celebrate the beauty of the many traditions that make up our human community…

Last night at sundown began the celebration of Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year.  In this tradition "we hear the blast of the ram's horn meant to awaken our slumbering souls to time's passage and to what we have done in the past year and what we could do better with our lives".  - Michael Strassfeld

This New Year, (5775 in the Jewish calendar) is part of a 7 year cycle called a Shemittah or Sabbatical year. 

These years and are considered holy years in which we are enjoined to focus more on our spiritual mission in life… Fields were to be allowed to lie fallow, debts were forgiven, and mankind was enjoined to focus on healing ourselves and our land.

 "Shemittah is a year of economic, environmental, and social equity...a time when physical and social boundaries are dissolved, reminding us that we live and thrive not within the barricades of self but in the shelter of each other and the gifts of the wilds. We all abide in one and the same world that we consume and renew in an endless cycle of co-generation. 

To keep the world humming, we must do this mindfully and properly."   read more

May this be a special year for us all - a year of healing and renewal!

Tuesday, September 23, 2014


"I don't know what I want to be when I grow up," she said wistfully.

This 'kid' was 29 and suddenly hit with that 'OMG I'm about to be a real adult' attack.

You know, that feeling that hits most of us as we approach that magic 'turning into an adult' age…

Why 30?
Who knows?

But that seems to be one of those painful measuring points in our lives.

What do ya say?
Been there?

How did you get through it?

Friday, September 19, 2014


Why do we keep re-running old traumas and emotional wounds?

What might our purpose be in clinging to these personal historical events and feelings?

Some seem to believe that by maintaining and embracing these old injuries we actually protect ourselves from reoccurrences. 

In actuality, it seems that clinging onto the past in this way might make us even more susceptible to similar conduct in the present…

An opportunity to experiment with some fun


Make a list of the old personal 'injuries' and traumas that you are holding onto. 

This should be pretty easy - if you are holding on, these incidents from the past will pop into your thoughts as you scan your personal history.

Now see if you can determine what the key ingredients are and if there are similarities between the events.

Okay, now the interesting part. 
Ask yourself what you get by holding on to these grievances? 

We are not talking about scolding yourself! 

We are actually looking for the perceived value that might be causing you to maintain this memory in an active form that is easily tapped into in the present!

Sometimes by realizing that this is not really useful we automatically remove some of the 'charge' that this memory has held for us…

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Thursday, September 18, 2014


"My mother threw away all my teddy bears," she lamented.

She was really upset, and no, the speaker was not 7 years old although that's when in happened…

This woman was still upset about an event that happened over two decades ago.

Yeah, she was almost 30 now, but those teddy bears were still bothering her…

What do ya say?
Got any old traumas you're holding onto?

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Wednesday, September 17, 2014


Why is it important to acknowledge our psychological achievements? 
And what actually constitutes a psychological step forward?

Each small change we make in our emotional field - a slightly different way of responding to a particular problem or challenging person - deserves a pat on the back.

Does a small shift count?
How about a one time shift?
Not 100%?

The mini steps towards our goals are important to see as wins in themselves.

By giving ourselves credit for small victories we build stamina for the long haul!

An opportunity to experiment with some fun


So how do you pat yourself on the back for taking a step forward?

Can you actually see those mini steps or do they have to be gargantuan before you count them?

Think about a recent difficult situation - or even an on-going, chronic issue that you have been dealing with…

Spell out the 'problem':
Difficult person?  (Mother, father, sibling, partner… you get the idea…)
Challenging issue? (Money, weight, work… you know, those biggies…)

Now ask yourself how you have traditionally dealt with the situation.
         The list here might be long - make it as comprehensive as possible…

Next ask yourself what you might have done - or could do - that might be a little different.  

Look for little shifts in possible or actual behavior.  Really pay attention to the micro!

Finally, look at yourself in your real or metaphorical mirror, and give yourself a big pat on the back for any small steps in a slightly new direction!


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Tuesday, September 16, 2014


No, not that kind!

We're talking about emotional wins, reaching and accomplishing a goal and then…

Well, listen in to this one…

"So," she said, "my dad came for a visit.  He was his usual, abusive self… But this time I reacted differently.  I called him on it - nicely - but I did it!"


"Well, I got through to him…"


"Well, there really is no 'and'.  I mean I don't want to congratulate myself because I know it won't last!  Next time I see him he'll be a jerk again."

 So, here's the question:
What does giving yourself a gold star mean?

Does it really mean you've changed the other person's behavior?

What do ya say?
Is it ok to have only changed yours?

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Friday, September 12, 2014


I know you used to run marathons, weigh 120 pounds, and dance til dawn...

Yay you!  Give yourself a pat on the back for all your past accomplishments and now start from today - not from yesterday!

People get stuck - and depressed - when their expectations are not realistic - and basing goals on past performance is by definition not real!

Forward momentum - movement - is in our DNA.  It was related to survival of our species and is still important. 

Start with where you are right now, reward yourself for reaching realistic goals - and who knows you might be back to dancing til dawn!

An opportunity to experiment with some fun


Evaluate your goals
Are they realistic and based on your current capabilities?

If you were making a 'mini-goal' what would it be?
Now try your mini-goal.
How does this feel?
Did you succeed?  If yes, give yourself kudos and applause.
If no, make it more 'mini'!

Check this out:
That guy from yesterday who can no longer run, dreams of marathons and ends up sitting in front of the tv depressed… He needs movement but denies himself the experience because he is holding onto the past!

That's not you, right?

What is realistic for you?
What can you do to bring movement into your life?

Take a walk to a new place…
Go through a different door…
Clean out a drawer…
Sing a song…
Feel that momentum - and enjoy!

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Thursday, September 11, 2014


I mean moderation, right?
Well, sort of…

I'm talking about moderating and modifying what you do as you - and your life - evolves.  Check out these two stories, both true…

An older woman, let's call her Granny, wasn't happy where she was living.  At her 89th birthday she announced that it was time for her to move.  She had heard of a place and wanted to go check it out… she did, she moved and she's been smiling ever since - a lot!

The second story is about a younger man who is suffering from some debilitating physical problems…
"I'll never be able to run again," this ex-jock laments… 
The moral of these stories?

You have to keep changing up your game... THINKING CHANGE - NOT LOSS!

Maybe you can't run like you used to - so walk!  
Walking still not an option?

No problem.  Practice deep breathing!

You get the idea, right?
This is the most potent anti-depressant going:


What do ya say?

Can you get your arms around this one?

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Wednesday, September 10, 2014


What makes it difficult for us to acknowledge other people's contributions to our lives?

Sometimes it seems we feel that saying - 'thank you' - 'I appreciate you' - 'what a great idea you had' - weakens our position and lessens our power.

Perhaps some of this gets started at a young age, both at home and in the school room, where comparisons and competition tend to be the norm.  This can lead us to believe that there is only room for one 'winner', rather than teaching us to take joy in working collectively and collaboratively.

In reality, our generosity of spirit, our ability to recognize the importance of others in our lives, makes us stronger!

An opportunity to experiment with some fun


Imagine your parents telling you how much you have contributed to their lives…

Imagine they say:
"You know, I love it when you tell me about your life, I learn so much from you!"

How does this feel?

Now imagine your siblings telling you how smart they think you are and how much they have learned from you…

How does this feel?

Let each of these people tell you how much you have contributed to their lives and how much of who they are they've learned from you.

What happens as you do this?

How do you feel?  
How do you feel about them?
Could you reverse it and say those same things back to them?

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