Friday, November 17, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - APPRECIATE MUCH?

Did your family Thanksgiving dinners include going around the table and saying what you were grateful for?

Remember this - being thankful - and mindful - of what you have does not take away your right to:
        
        Want more…
        Be envious…
        Be angry…

Appreciation for what we have does not mean we stop being human!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

TRY THIS:

Make a list of things that you appreciate…
Now, the fun part… For each of those appreciations, list a resentment!
The formula is:  I appreciate/ I resent
Continue until you run out!

What happens as you do this?










Thursday, November 16, 2017

MEMORIES…

Here's a pretty amazing and uplifting statement from an elderly lady we know dealing with her memory loss:

"Well," she told us with a big smile, "there are people who remember less then I do…"



What do ya say?


Unreal or just choosing to be thankful for what she has?







Wednesday, November 15, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - GOING UNDER

What creates a hypnotic trance? 
        An altered state
        Repetition
        A belief in the speaker's authority

Interesting…

Doesn't this, at least to some extent, describe our situation during those highly charged years of childhood?

Without realizing it, during our early years of life, we are subject to internalizing hypnotic suggestions about who we are and what we can expect from life!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WAKING UP IN 6 STEPS!

1) Make a list of some of the words you use to describe yourself.
2) Next to each word write who first used this to describe you.
3) How old were you were when you were first identified this way.
4) Do you like these descriptions of you?
5) If you changed these description, what words would you use?
6) Imagine actually switching to your new words.

How does this feel?





Tuesday, November 14, 2017

STUCK!

"I'm my mother's son," he informed me.

"People always told me I was just like her…"

He was explaining why he did things in a certain way and really was unlikely to ever change.

From where he sat - and all those years of hearing this belief reinforced - he didn't believe that he had much choice!




What do ya say?

What cement blocks are you chained to?





Friday, November 10, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE FLY'S EYE VIEW

This isn't a one-off. 

People have been fascinated with the idea of being able to observe without being noticed, with getting the whole picture without having to interact - going way back in time.

What makes it so intriguing?

Perhaps some of the same charge we get from reading a good book?  Listening to good music?  Being hypnotized by an absorbing piece of art?

Or is the draw something more connected to the power of secret knowledge? 


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

GET SOME FLY POWER

Imagine 3 different situations - current or past - where you might get a kick out of being that fly on the wall.

Have some fun with this one and imagine listening in to conversations.  What might you get from this 'spying'?

Like a dream, this imaginary information tells you something about yourself.  Maybe it shows where you experience missing pieces?

How could you use this information in a healthy, self awareness way?

If it seems like it might make you happy, you have the fly's permission to incorporate what you imagined into your story… remembering that you are choosing to do a re-write…







Thursday, November 9, 2017

WOULDN'T YOU LIKE TO BE… A FLY ON THE WALL?

Getting that bird's eye, god's eye view…
Revealing secrets…


Seeing the underside, the behind the scenes, back story…

Creating clarity, security, understanding, true awareness…

What do ya say?
Ever wish you could be…


Wednesday, November 8, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MAGICAL DREAMS

How much are we taught about the importance of dreams?

We know all about sleep - how it's healing and vital to our well being, but dreams…

Throughout history and literature we reference dreams and their significance and yet we still seem to dismiss their relevance to our daily lives.

One way of making this part of our reality more useful is to realize that we actually create these 'visions' and that they can expand our knowledge of ourselves, allowing us entrance into a different realm of awareness.


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WORK THEM!

Talk to your dreams.
Before sleep: Ask for help in resolving a dilemma.

During sleep: You can actually merge your waking and sleeping  self to help you tune into the messages your dreams are giving you. This might take a little practice!

When you wake up: Make notes - write out whatever you remember no matter how fragmented. 

Be creative and imagine that you can interact with the images and characters in your dreams.
Even inanimate objects can have relevance. 

Ever tried becoming an umbrella?  
What would you say to an umbrella?  
Maybe something like: 'Hi what are you doing in my dream?'
And it might answer: 'Well I protect you, and I am easy to maneuver and use.'

If you continued this dialog what might you discover about the reason this prop showed up in your dream?

You get the idea. Right?



Tuesday, November 7, 2017

VOILA! WHOPPEE! WOOHOO!

Last night I wrote the entire weeks' Blog - 4 perfect posts - in my sleep.

I woke up truly delighted - until I watched them disappear… sucked back into the euphoric miasma of sleep!



Aarrg!

What do ya say?

Ever have this happen?


Solve all the worlds' woes in your sleep?






Friday, November 3, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - IMPACT!

No matter what you assume, your words do affect others!

They can accept what you say, or reject it but either way the other person has to use their energy to deal with your output.

We tend to be pretty insensitive to our impact on those around us and the less we pay attention the more harm we can do, and the less we understand what comes back at us!



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

PICKING UP THE SIGNS…
Five clues to negative impact:

1)  Body language - Crossed arms? Raised shoulders? Clenched fists?

2)  Voice - Too loud? Too low? Too high pitched?

3)  Facial changes - Looking away? Staring? Muscle tightness? Twitches?

4)  Physical distance - Moving away? Standing too close? Leaving the room?

5) Continued contact - Avoidance? 




Thursday, November 2, 2017

I'M RIGHT - YOU'RE WRONG!

"That's stupid!" he exclaimed with great authority.

His friend was talking to him about something he didn't believe in so of course it was stupid.



Easy, isn't it, to assume our beliefs are the correct ones, and not stop to wonder how our negative stomp might be affecting the other guy.


What do ya say?
Do you get this?


Tuesday, October 31, 2017

THE FINE ART OF APPRECIATION

"How come", he wanted to know, "people seem to have such a hard time acknowledging things - you know, saying 'thank you'?

"My brother needed some help," he continued," and I really went out of my way to figure out what he needed and do it…" 

"Not easy, but I was happy to be able to help…
"And then … nothing!"

"He did what I suggested, told me about it as if it was his idea!  He never even acknowledged that it was my suggestion!"

"I just don't get it," he whined, "is it that hard to say 'thank you'?




What do ya say?  Do you know why people don't do this?

Friday, October 27, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - FEELING DOWN?

Have you ever noticed how some people navigate life's ups and downs in a way that seems more graceful than others?

It's not really that what happens to them is easier - they go through the same bumps and crashes as the rest of us, but they don't seem to stay in those dark places.

If you watch closely you might notice that they are making choices, actively working to minimize 'dark' time...

DANCE WITH IT!  EXPERIMENTAL APPS
An opportunity to expriment with some fun ideas...

FINDING THE LIGHT - FIVE CLUES FROM THE 'ENLIGHTENED'...

1)  Look for the laugh!  There are giggles all around us - even on difficult days.
2)  Look for beauty!  Breathe deeply and take in the light! 
3)  Dream and create fantasies...even bed-bound people can travel!
4)  Read a book that catches your fancy!
5)  Music, music, music!





Thursday, October 26, 2017

SOMETIMES YA JUST GOTTA LAUGH…

Hard day?  Hard year?



Tomorrow we'll get serious again…

But for today, check these out:




Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie… listen and laugh

My Boyfriend's Back… remember this one?

Poison Ivy unbelievable?

You Talk Too Much hehe

Yakety Yak yep!

Purple People Eater losing it yet?

The Witch Doctor  no comment

Who Put The Bomp  are you moving?


Sh Boom Sh Boom and finally...

What do ya say?
You're smiling, right?






Wednesday, October 25, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - COUP STICKS

Remember getting gold stars in school when you were a kid?
Or an A+ on a term paper?

The idea was to reward children for completing a task - and completing it to the standard of the 'grading' adult…

An interesting concept and one we can certainly understand, but…

The take-away that we tend to grow up with is that nothing but 100% counts…

Can you see how this might be crippling?  How many times in real life do we hit that level?

What do we tell ourselves when we don't?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

CREATE YOUR OWN COUP STICK

Think about what you have actually accomplished in the last week…

How much credit have you actually given yourself for what you did do instead of scolding yourself for what you didn't do?

Imagine creating your own 'coup stick'.  What would it look like?
Now imagine that you make a mark for each mini step you take…

How does this change your attitude towards getting things done and reaching your goals?






Tuesday, October 24, 2017

COUNTING COUP - YET AGAIN…

Did you ever hear the saying: 'Life is hard by the yard… but it's a cinch by the inch'?

Did it ever make sense to you?

One way it really works is 'counting coup' …

How many times have you set a goal and considered yourself a failure because you didn't make it to 100%?

What did this do to your continued endeavor?


How do you think this might change if you put a notch on your 'coup stick' for all the inches - all those tiny, mini steps that you did actually accomplish?

What do ya say? Ever try this one?


Friday, October 20, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE 'SHOULD' CURSE

As soon as we start making rules we create resistance!
Think about it…

If you had a sibling and your parents said - 'Be nice to your brother' - do you remember what you felt?

Maybe you were one of the few angels visiting our planet, but for most of us the more likely internal responses were:  'Why?', 'Not my job!', 'Ick!'

When we remove those unrealistic imperatives of universal perfection and acknowledge that as humans we feel jealousy, resentment, anger, and competition, we remove the need to pretend. 

Once we do this, we leave the door open to working through the 'negatives' and actually arriving at some of those warm fuzzy places!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

HOW MANY 'SHOULDS' DO YOU HAVE?

Make a list of your 'shoulds'.
Can you actually allow yourself to write these down?

How long is your list?
When did you adopt each of these rules?

As you look at your list imagine giving yourself permission to do the opposite of what you wrote.

What do you feel as you try this imaginary experiment?





Thursday, October 19, 2017

EVERYBODY GET TOGETHER…

Remember that song?  The Youngbloods - 1967 


Pretty sounds… Nice words…

Okay... 'try to'…
But reality?
Not!


What do ya say?

Can you see how buying this as a 'should' might actually be toxic?


Wednesday, October 18, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LISTEN TO THE MUSIC

We focus a lot on body language and the clues it gives us about our interactions with others - all that eye contact, crossed arm displays and other visual indicators that we've learned to notice…

But what about actual spoken language?

We have incorporated many words and phrases into our speech that allow us to - at best - soften our message, and at the worst, lie with impunity!

All these mitigating phrases are used to soften the blow of something that we believe would otherwise be offensive or unbelievable. 

Do you think it works?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHAT ARE THEY REALLY SAYING?

Make a list of all the mitigating words and phrases you use or hear during the course of the next few days…

What happens as you pay attention to this?
How do you feel when others do it to you?
Does it upgrade them in your estimation?

What do you imagine would happen if you stopped doing this?