Thursday, May 25, 2017

GETTING IT DONE: RITUAL OR CHORE?

"I hate cleaning my place!" they said. 

"It's such a hassle!  And it isn't like you can do it once and never again!  No!  You have to keep doing it, again and again!"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFhubbRugak

"I love cleaning my place!" they said. 

You go into an altered space - no thinking, no crises, no difficult decisions…just a simple, repetitive motion and easy breathing… like a meditation!"

Hmmm…




The activity is the same, right?

The feeling totally different!





Wednesday, May 24, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - NOW OR THEN?

Remember all those childhood bedtime stories about planning for the future?  

The Grasshopper and the Ants? http://read.gov/aesop/052.html   

How did you react way back then when your heard these fables? 
Did they teach you a valuable lession, or scare you about the future? 

Were you later confused by all the advice about living in the present?

How do you put these two mandates together and make sense for your own life?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

CAN YOU FIND YOUR OWN BALANCE BETWEEN NOW AND THEN?

This is an interesting one to play with…

To find your own balance think about some of the people you know who have done this well:
Maybe an elderly person who took care of themselves re: housing, health issues etc.
Maybe a friend or relative who did good planning in relationships with others.

Then maybe think about some of the people you know who did not find a good balance.  What can you learn from their stories?

Now think about your own life.  Where is your balance right now?






Tuesday, May 23, 2017

THE WRITING ON THE WALL

Can you see it?
Do you pay attention?
Adjust accordingly?


Or are you one of those 'cover your eyes, ears and mouth' folks who try to hold their breath until it's all over?

What do ya say?
Which way works best for you?




Friday, May 19, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - ASSIGNING BLAME

Imagine that same scenario from yesterday…
A child comes home from school crying. 

The parent asks what happened… and then… instead of assigning blame, the parent comforts the child and helps that child develop a life strategy… figuring out how to take care of themselves going forward!

Who's to blame doesn't get us very far… 
What to do about it does!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

Change your vocabulary to change the outcome!
Instead of 'Who' use 'What', 'When', 'How'…
Instead of 'Blame' think 'Fix'!







Thursday, May 18, 2017

DID YOU FEEL POWERFUL?

Remember this one:

You come home from school - maybe crying - and when your parent asks you what happened you tell them about that mean kid who…

And they say:
"Well, what did you do?  You must have done something to make them…"



What do ya say?

Do you think maybe they were trying to empower you?

You know, make you think you caused it?


Wednesday, May 17, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - RECONNECTING

We often function on auto-pilot and don't even realize that some of our supposed 'choices' are based on 'disconnects'. 

Not really 'choices' at all!

We say we want one thing and act in a manner that is guaranteed NOT to accomplish our goal! 

Once we recognize how we are functioning and where the disconnect is, we can begin to create true choices!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

5 STEPS TO OVERCOME DISCONNECTS

1)  Slow down!  Most disconnects have become automatic!

2)  Breathe!  Give yourself time to get off auto-pilot!

3)  Locate the origin of the disconnect!  When did this happen?

4)  Upgrade! Put new code into your belief system!

5)  Reboot! 



  

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

THE TRULY STRANGE WORLD OF DISCONNECTS

Ever notice how often you hear someone saying one thing and doing the exact opposite?

Okay, vague, right?

To be specific:
How many times do you say: "I want to lose weight!" as you gobble down a calorie laden snack?


And how often do you criticize someone else for a certain behavior ("They are sooo controlling, mean, critical…) and then turn around and do the exact same thing?

What do ya say?  
Human nature?  Learned behavior?  Mental fog?
Or just plain weird?