Friday, October 13, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LIMITED THINKING

We seem to make constant assumptions about what is expected and appropriate for our age, gender, background, lifestyles, language…

Does this type of thinking really help us?  Or does it reinforce and actually create handicaps?

If we believe these suppositions about who and how we are supposed to be we limit ourselves and others!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

CREATING BOXES

Check out your own assumptions…

What are your beliefs about how you and others should act at a given age?
How about a given gender?
Your position in society?
Ask yourself these questions and others related to boxing yourself in…

How might you look at the world if you dropped these beliefs?







Thursday, October 12, 2017

MAKING THOSE ASSUMMPTIONS…

Today I went for one of those stress tests.  

As I was running on the treadmill the doctor said:  "Sweetie," yes, he called me 'sweetie'…
"Sweetie, you filled out this form wrong."

"What's the problem?" I asked continuing to run and wondering how his interruption might mess the measurements…

"Well," he answered in a very condescending tone of voice, "You didn't write all your medications sweetie."

"That's because I don't take any," I responded.




"Of course you do," he informed me.

"Everyone your age is on medication!"




What do ya say?  You don't get caught in this trap, right?

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHAT IS DIVERSITY?

One of the fascinating aspects of human kind is our diversity…

We come from different cultures - even within the same country - city - and yes family!

Our position in these macro and micro cultures weaves the fabric of our beliefs.

Understanding this certainly adds complexity to our dealings with others, but also a wonderful richness and variety!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

MAKING DIFFERENCES OKAY…

This one is simple:  We are not the same, and not only is this okay…it is reality and has to be okay!

Think about the people in your life:  family members, friends, and partners.

Now think about the ways they are different from you.
Now think about how often their differences have annoyed you…

Now imagine that instead of annoying you…you found these differences fascinating!

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DO THIS?




Tuesday, October 10, 2017

WHOSE RULES?

"I would never talk to anyone like that!" he stated emphatically.

"I would never miss a birthday like that!" she assured me.

"And if I did…" each of them assured me…"it would surely mean…"


What makes us think we all follow the same playbook... 

and that therefore we can be sure of what signifies 'dereliction of duty'?



What do ya say?
You don't make these assumptions, do you?




Friday, October 6, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - CREATING LABELS

We have a tendency to label ourselves and others.
We label our children when they are still in the crib.  

"Oh, yeah," we say, "She's very easy going."
Or
"My son is so stubborn!"

You've heard it, and probably said it, but have you ever stopped to really think about these labels?

They are arbitrary - from the perspective of the labeler - limiting, and truly artificial.

In reality most of us humans have our 'easy-going' times and our 'stubborn and demanding' moments…


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHY DO WE LABEL OURSELVES AND OTHERS?

Check the ones you think apply:
It gives me a short cut for dealing with someone.
It seems to make life more predictable.
Sometimes it makes me feel superior.
It separates me from the other person: He is 'x' and I am 'y'.

Now think about a few of the people in your life - remove the labels and see how you feel…






Thursday, October 5, 2017

SO, WHO AM I?

'My mother' she said,'has always said that I am a prima donna - that I always want things my way and think that the world revolves around me…'

'It's strange,' she continued,'because I don't think I feel that way…or do I?'


'Sometimes I think she's right and knows me better than I know myself… is that weird or what?'



What do ya say?
Can you identify with these feelings?


Tuesday, October 3, 2017

EITHER/OR?

Flexibility/Rigidity?
Holding on/Letting go?
Kind/Mean?

All of the above?


What do ya say?

Do you understand the true concept of the sliding scale?