Tuesday, May 24, 2016

SILVER LININGS - REALLY?

Ever hear that saying:
'Man plans and God laughs'?



Well, maybe the laughter is about our attachment to that original plan and our clenched jaw refusal to let it go…



We often resist seeing the possibility that something good just might be lurking around that next corner…


What do ya say?
Can you see it?



Friday, May 20, 2016

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - ANGER 102

Of course feelings of anger are inevitable… it's a natural response to having our boundaries violated and our feelings hurt.

Once we recognize this, the wonderful thing is that we have choices about how we want to deal with it!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

ANGER IN 4 SIMPLE STEPS

1)  Acknowledge It!
2)  Focus on what it's about.
3)  Don't second guess yourself!  It's ok to experience this human emotion.
4)  Give yourself healthy options about how to 'work with' 
what you are feeling.  
     
Remember there are many choices.




Thursday, May 19, 2016

WALK IT ON DOWN THE LINE…

She was angry at the nasty comments her son was slinging her way, but... 

She decided not to say anything.

After all, it was in a social setting and well…

So the next day she zapped her daughter… totally unrelated, of course.



The daughter was taken completely off guard.


"Hey, what did I do?" she thought but didn't say…




Later that day when the daughter's husband asked her a relatively simple, but perhaps somewhat unnecessary question, guess who got slammed?

What do ya say?

Ever notice this one?
Ever do it yourself?



Wednesday, May 18, 2016

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THAT'S THE WAY TO SAY GOODBYE…

On some level we really do know when it's time to go - or let go - whether it's of a relationship, a place, a job, or a thing.

We experience the frustration of trying and not getting results, or we perceive anger coming at us that we are unable to understand or circumvent.

However, often, even though we know it's really finished, we hang on, hoping that somehow a miracle will occur and we won't have to say goodbye…



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

EXIT STRATEGIES

1)  Give it your best shot.

2)  Tell yourself you did give it your all.

3)  Acknowledge your gains - what have you already gotten?

4)  Acknowledge what you haven't gotten and ask yourself if it is really available.

5)  Admit the sadness and anger that comes with having to let go.


6)  Repeat that mantra about one door closing and another opening as you say goodbye! 





Tuesday, May 17, 2016

EXIT STRATEGIES

So, when is it okay to walk away?
And how?

Does it have to be ugly?
Intense?
Do you have to tell them everything they did wrong?

Do you need to justify your move?

Or might it be as simple as that next rotation of the earth…


What do ya say?

Can you move on elegantly?



Friday, May 13, 2016

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - UNSTICKING?

'I am really trying - really… I just can't seem to fix this problem!'

How many times have you heard this lament - or felt it yourself?  

You're not lying to yourself or anyone else.  You are trying - sometimes very hard!  And how incredibly frustrating to work at something and not get results!

This is exactly time for that famous 'thinking outside the box'.  

Sometimes we are not even aware of the box we are trapped in - and therefore certainly have no idea how to get out!

This is where imagination, fantasy and believing impossible things come in…

By opening the door to the impossible we often enable ourselves to re-define the possible. 



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

OPENING UP TO POSSIBLE

This is a wonderful opportunity to use your imagination …we all have that tool!

So, you're stuck with a problem - a person, a position, a feeling…
Imagine:
You already know the answer!  Tell yourself what it is!
Imagine:
You are a computer with all the information is the world.  Google the answer to your dilemma…
Imagine:
You are another animal - a lion, tiger, giraffe, hawk… and from your animal persona you can move differently, see differently…

What happens as you do this experiment?






Thursday, May 12, 2016

BELIEVE IT!

Did you ever read Alice in Wonderland?  music to read this one by...

Putting aside any thoughts about possible chemical influences, that bit about believing 6 impossible things before breakfast is a really mind stretching concept!




Obviously, it takes some thinking outside the box, right?



What do ya say?

Try it, you might like it!