Friday, February 15, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHAT DID YOU SAY?

So, what is communication?
Is it that which is received?
Or, that which is actually said?
What's the goal?
Is it competitive or cooperative?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS  
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT TWO RECENT CONVERSATIONS…
Conversation #1 worked out great…
Conversation #2 turned into an argument…
What made the difference?
Was the goal sharing or was it proving yourself  'right'?
Was there a 'winner'?







Thursday, February 14, 2019

ARE YOU LISTENING?

"It felt like I was going nuts!"
The woman was clearly stressed as she told me her story.
"I was talking to a friend", she continued, "and my friend started attacking me about something I said…"


"Except it was actually the opposite of what I said and no matter how I tried to tell her, she just got angrier and attacked me more!"

"It was surreal, I felt like I had been teleported to another dimension!"
What do ya say?
Ever been here?  How did you feel?



Wednesday, February 6, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - EMPOWERMENT!

We can't control other people - often we can't even control events that come our way…
So, what can we do to take care of ourselves?
We can recognize that we do have CHOICES - about how we react to all those people and events.
The more we recognize this, the less helpless and hopeless we feel!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS  An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THINK ABOUT 5 'NEGATIVE' THINGS THAT HAVE RECENTLY HAPPENED IN YOUR LIFE:
1)  Describe the event
2)  Describe your initial reaction.
            What did you think?  How did you feel?
3)  Would you describe these events as 'woe is me', victim moments? 
4)  Did you stop to think that regardless of the event you did     have a choice about your own reaction?
CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW POWERFUL IT WOULD FEEL TO REALLY CHOOSE YOUR RESPONSE?







Tuesday, February 5, 2019

GUNG HAY FAT CHOY!

One of the blessings of our land of diversity is the joy of celebrating many holidays, each with its own stories, customs, foods and smiles! 

Today starts the celebration of the Chinese Lunar New Year. 

2019 is the year of the Pig…
Can you hear the popping of firecrackers?

A FEW DIFFERENT BELIEFS ABOUT THE YEAR OF THE PIG…

'Pig is the twelfth in the 12-year cycle of Chinese zodiac sign.  Pig is not thought to be a smart animal in China. It likes sleeping and eating and becomes fat.'  
https://www.travelchinaguide.com/intro/social_customs/zodiac/pig.htm
OR…
A pig represents luck, overall good fortune, wealth, honesty, general prosperity, symbolizing a hard working, peace-loving person, a truthful, generous, indulgent, patient, reliable, trusting, sincere, giving, sociable person with a large sense of humour and understanding.                            https://www.nationsonline.org/oneworld/Chinese_Customs/pig.htm

What do ya say?
Love it?  You get diversity, right?  How about the idea of making choices?




Wednesday, January 23, 2019

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - AND IF YOU BELIEVED THAT…

So, what's the problem with buying into those 'pretty' stories?
The 'happily ever afters', and the lovey, dovey perfect family movies?  All those magic, easy solutions?
The problem is simply that it's not real! If we believe the fantasy, we take away our weapons - our skill sets, our 'stick to it', 'work through it' powers…
If it's all supposed to be rainbows and unicorns, we undermine our strength by believing that something is wrong with us when we are faced with reality.
There is a lot of beauty in life, and we can often create a sense of ease, but not by trying to erase the truth: that it is often, also hard!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS              An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
THINK ABOUT SOME OF THE THINGS YOU THINK SHOULD BE EASY:
    Work?
    Meeting new people?
    Relationships?
    Family issues?
    Love?
    Dealing with feelings?
All the things that are magically resolved in our fairy tales…
What do you think might change if you acknowledged that these things are indeed challenging, that there is nothing wrong with you because you find them difficult?
Think about it:
Is it possible that without the overlay of 'make believe' these issues might actually be easier to go through?




Tuesday, January 22, 2019

SHOULD IT BE SO HARD?

"It's so hard! Something must be wrong with me…"
Sure…
If you believe in Fairy Tales.


Remember Cinderella and that Prince?
Yikes!

And all those 'Happily After Movies?'
What do ya say?  Did you ever wonder what really happened 'After'?

Tuesday, January 15, 2019

RUINED!

Ever hear of brumotactillophobia?
Ever watch a little kid refuse to eat because the carrots touched the peas?

"It's all ruined!" the child sobs.


Yep.  That's brumotactillophobia.
And how might that translate to our grown up world?
Ever try really hard to accomplish something and have one little thing fall apart and 'ruin' everything?
What do ya say?
Get it?