Tuesday, March 28, 2017

CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?

"Well," he said.  "I knew it!  I just knew if I waited, sure enough, he'd screw up!"

"What did you say?" he asked me.
"No, of course I didn't go into detail about what I wanted…"


Here's another one:
"My brother," she said, "is such an obnoxious bore!  He just talks over everyone."

 "What did you say?" she asked me.
"No, of course I never told him how annoying he is…"

And finally:
"She invited me to dinner," he complained, "and made food I never eat!  It was awful!"

"What did you say?" he asked me.
"No, of course I didn't tell her what I could eat beforehand…"

What do ya say?  See a pattern here?




Friday, March 24, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - AGELESS

Can you remember a time when you were really happy with your age?

In retrospect we all look back on how much easier life was at an earlier time.

You know, you were more attractive, thinner, stronger, happier, smarter…
Right.

And were you actually saying it then?
I mean, at age 15 were you saying, "Whoa, life is so easy!"

Or at age 18?
Or 23?
Or… 

Nah.


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS               An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

Here are some things to ponder…

How old do you feel?  Does this change from day to day?
What are your 'pictures' connected to different ages?

How do you divide your life into epochs?

How old is 'old'?

Where did you get your ideas about age?
Do you want to upgrade them?










Thursday, March 23, 2017

WHATS AGE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

When I turned 21 I started fretting about getting old.

At the time I was working in a language school and one of the other teachers, a Russian lady of a certain age, asked me what was wrong.  She laughed when I told her. 

"Carol", she said, "life doesn't even begin until you hit 60!  That's when you really come into your own!"

Then there was the friend who had been complaining about how old he was - for the last 30 years!


The final word on this one comes from an 80 year old I met hiking in the mountains outside of Guadalajara, Mexico.  

Here's her take on age:

"When I turned 70," she said, "I was feeling poorly and went to the doctor.  


I described my symptoms, and he shook his head and smiled at me sweetly.  

"Well, you are 70 and this is the way people feel when they get old."

"I looked that idiot straight in the eye and said 'FU'!  Then I went and found another doctor!" 

What do ya say?
Maybe it's time to rethink this one.






Wednesday, March 22, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - RULES OF THE ROAD

On the one hand we are told to aim high, visualize success and it will all come to us…

On the other hand we've got that learning curve to deal with…

Did you ever learn to ski?
Did you start on the baby slope?  Doing that truly dumb snow plough?

Graceful?  Not even close!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

CONVERSATIONS WITH BULLYS - INNER AND OUTER

You:  "Okay.  So I am not perfect, but I am in there trying."
Bully:  "Trying is lying!"
You:  "Get off my back you fanatic whip wielder!
Bully:  "I am only trying to help you."
You:  "Seriously?  Are you nuts?  Do you think whacking me with your constant demands for perfection is helpful?
Bully:  "Well…"





                                                                       

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

CLUNK CLUNK CLUNK

"I just had a conversation with my mother and tried on this new stuff you've been feeding me…"

He was really down in the dumps.

"You know," he continued, "pushing back, maintaining my own boundaries.  All that supposedly healthy stuff!"

"Ugh!"

"I felt like that 800 pound gorilla and did about as well as that gorilla would have!"


"Fail!" he shouted.

"After I got off the phone," he moaned,"I really felt rotten!  I was sooo clumsy!"

What do ya say? 


Ever feel like you have two left feet when you try something new?


Friday, March 17, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MIGHT IT REALLY BE GOLDEN?

Quiet doesn't seem to get high marks in our lives.

Can you remember the last time you were praised for being silent?Maybe in grade school...  

When we're quiet, we often assume that others tend to think the worst about us - or maybe that's only what we think they're thinking?

Hmmm


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHAT'S YOUR SILENCE TOLERANCE?
Which of the following fit for you?

* I can sit quietly and be comfortable with my own silence and that of others.

* If it's quiet too long I think something's wrong.

* When I'm with people and there's silence I have to fill it in.

* If someone doesn't respond to me right away, I get nervous and start chattering or asking questions.

* If there's a lull in a conversation I tend to think the other person is bored and try to be entertaining.

* I hate silence.  I always fill it in with negative thoughts.









Thursday, March 16, 2017

SHHH… HANG IN THERE!

She asked me a question and I was quiet for a moment, letting my mind wander…
It's a lovely way to find answers.

But…

Ever notice how many people tend to panic when there's silence?
"Oh," she filled in quickly, "did you mean…"



What is it about silence that makes people feel such an intense need to fill in the blanks?

What do ya say?

Ever notice this one?