Friday, October 21, 2016


All animals communicate.
They wiggle their noses; switch their tails, sniff, bark, run in circles…

We humans sometimes think our only means of communication is words. In reality we use all our senses to make contact with others.

These recent election debates have been a wonderful primer on all the non-verbal ways humans communicate. 

Maybe one of the unexpected 'take-aways' of this extraordinary time in our country is sensitizing us to all that non-verbal communication!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…


Here's a fun way to use these debates - play the non-verbal game!

Think about each of the debates you watched.
How many of the non-verbal cues did you pick up on?
How did they affect you?

Now to really have some fun, try them out…
Pretend you are each of the 'actors' and mimic their behavior.
How do you feel as you do this?
What clues might this give you to what these people were trying to 'say'?

Now ask yourself how many of these behaviors you actually use in your own every day life?

Want to change anything?

Thursday, October 20, 2016


The taxi driver really wanted to talk about the coming election.

He was a US citizen originally from an African country.
His accent was pretty thick but his enthusiasm was contagious.

I couldn't understand most of his words… but one out of five or six came through…

It was a totally delightful conversation.

We both ended the ride smiling - knowing that despite the language barrier we really communicated!

What do ya say?

Do you get this?

Wednesday, October 19, 2016


Ever catch yourself slipping those useless qualifiers into your speech - the 'really', 'but seriously', 'honestly', 'to tell the truth' drop-ins?

Ever wonder why?
These words don't actually have any meaning, or do they?

Perhaps we believe that they give us more authority and importance?

Or do we just use them as smoke screens for what we are actually saying?

If you think about it, you might notice that these repetitive sound bites actually diminish our impact.

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…


This one is really simple:  
Pay attention to when others use these 'drop-ins' in their speech. 
How do these words affect you? 
What do you think that other person is actually saying? 

(Tonight's Presidential debate might be a good opportunity to catch this one in action…)

Now pay attention to your own speech patterns…
What are you saying?

Tuesday, October 18, 2016


He said:  "You know…"
I thought:  "No, I don't, but if you say 'you know' one more time…"

He said:  "Look…"
I thought:  "Where?"

He said:  "Listen…"
I thought:  "What do you think I've been doing?"

He said:  "To tell the truth…"
I thought:  "What, everything else was a lie?"

He said:  "To tell you the truth…"
I thought:  "Yeah, I'm special, right?"

He said:  "Honestly…"

Uh huh.
Are these people for real?

Ever notice how some people drop these 'qualifying' words into, well, just about every sentence?

Lately, certain public figures seem to have cornered the market on this.

What do ya say?
Are they annoying, or what?

Friday, October 14, 2016


Sometimes the old admonitions:  'Keep going!'  'Don't give up!' actually fight our body's deeper wisdom.

Think about it, isn't it possible that a down day is your systems way of saying: 'Hey, time out!  I need to catch my breath!'

When we fight against these natural, perhaps healthy messages we often push ourselves past the breaking point and end up with something that really stops us! 

A cold or flu, a sprained ankle, all of these can be signs that you didn't listen to that 'stop' sign and your body is taking things into its own hands… so to speak!

Temporary is the operative word.  This is a time out to catch your breath.  (Down for the count is also a sign: this one cries 'time for professional intervention'!)

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…


#1.   Release the judgment!
 Bullying yourself into action is rarely productive!  
Have a dialog with your internal Bully and tell it to take a hike!

#2.  Listen to the message. 
What is your body trying to tell you? 
Have you been working too hard? 
Letting environmental stress get to you?

#3.  Act on the information! 
Take a break!  Catch your breath! 
Dumb down for a day! 
Stare at the sky, listen to the birds, do what you love that creates time out for you!

Thursday, October 13, 2016


Feeling flat?
A little down in the dumps?
Sort of blah?

It happens to the best of us.

Sometimes it's environmental.
No, we're not talking Global Warming.
In this case environmental means affected by things around us…
Over stimulated
Over whelmed
Burnt out…

Today's news stories (we all know what this is about these days, right?) can do it to us.

Dealing with serial days of bad weather…

Constant problems with friends and family can get to us, too.
Even the aftermath of and exciting event can knock us out.

The important thing is to realize that going flat at times is part of our human condition.

What do ya say?
Been there, of course…

Tuesday, October 11, 2016


You know we don’t usually talk politics…

But let's face it this Presidential election just crys out for scrutinizing, right?

How did we end up here? 

Yesterday someone described the male candidate's behavior during the recent debate as reminiscent of male gorilla stalking behavior: pacing back and forth, snorting and sniffing and sneaking up behind its prey…


For the very first time we have a female candidate for the highest office in this country and just at this definitive point we have a male candidate exhibiting a certain type of exaggerated  male primate behavior…


What do you think triggers the yin and the yang of human behavior?  And how might we be using this in times of change?

What do ya say?
Do you understand polarities?