Friday, July 31, 2015

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - CATCH THE MORPH

The stories of shape shifters permeate most cultures. 

They range from our werewolves and Dracula through the Native American cultures that portray shape shifters as both malevolent beings and guardian spirits with healing powers.

A clue to how much we actually love this concept is its pervasive presence in our ever present video games!   

Why so prevalent?

Perhaps one way to look at this phenomenon is that we all have a tendency to morph!  Slip sliding into different aspects of who we are. 

If you can acknowledge this in yourself and others, if you can catch it happening, you create another tool for understanding your world and your reactions to it!




DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           
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MORPH TRAINING 101

Did you ever stare at a kaleidoscope and make out shapes?
How about staring at clouds and watching them morph?  You know, bunnies and kitties turning into fire breathing dragons?

Take a moment and watch the people around you and allow yourself to begin recognizing the morph…

Some people can actually see it happen!  WOW!
For others of us, we can identify the shift only after it's complete. 

The more you practice this one, the easier it gets and the more useful a tool it becomes! 

Here's a true story that one of our readers shared:

"Once I realized that one of the people I'd most like to shake, spent most of his time morphed into Golden Retriever energy the desire to shake him was gone and instead I was super clear on what to expect:  galumphy Golden energy!  They are really cute, but get over yourself if you expect them to get quantum physics!"


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Thursday, July 30, 2015

SHAPESHIFTING

Ever been in a totally sequential, logical, understandable conversation with someone and all of a sudden find yourself left in the dirt wondering what happened?

Where did they go and where did that conversation take such a radical turn…

I was talking to my logical, compassionate, very mature friend and suddenly… Whoa!  I was clueless!

What happened?  She was ranting and raving, arms flailing… And then it hit me!  SHE MORPHED!

This was her 3 year old self throwing a total hissy fit!  OMG

I could see the image.  And it changed everything.  Instead of feeling confused and stressed and perhaps like I did something wrong, I started to laugh... 

Quietly, of course.

And then there was another recent time: 

A friend came to help me with a minor problem and as he was leaving - too far down the hall for me to respond - he turned around and got a totally squinty-eyed, evil look on his face and made a very nasty comment…


This time I got it right away!  SHAPE SHIFTER!  LIZARD MAN!

And again, instead of getting caught in the melodrama I smiled in delight…


Hey, I don't like scaly things with those long yucky tongues, but at least I don't blame myself for the way they act!

What do ya say?

Can you see how recognizing the morph can help you create a healthy separation between what's yours and what isn't?


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Wednesday, July 29, 2015

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - DEFUSING DARK CLOUDS

To neutralize a toxic substance you are exposed to it helps to know its ingredients. 

It is an interesting phenomenon that humans usually look for their own 'fault' in whatever happens.  'How did that happen?' our parents ask us during our childhoods.  'What did you do?'

With Dark Cloud People it is important to realize that most of the time you are irrelevant to the mix… 

Dark Cloud People carry an enveloping cloud of anger with them that can contaminate everything that it comes in contact with.  

This anger comes from all their perceived hurts, insults, lack of acknowledgement, and sustained emotional injuries throughout their lifetimes. 

Heavy. 

When they dump that cloud on someone else they feel a sense of relief!



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           
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PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM THE CLOUD BURST

Sometimes we are in a position to totally avoid these bad news folks…but sometimes they walk into our lives in the guise of family, office mates, neighbors…

Hubris (you know that arrogance of ours that makes us think that we are truly unique and can handle anything) often allows us to see how the Dark Cloud Person is raining their toxic mix down on others, but leads us to believe that we will be spared. 

False!  Sooner or later this barrage of poison will be directed at you…

To protect yourself:
1)  See it coming. 
2)  Recognize that you are not immune - it's just a matter of time!
3)  Don't look for your fault!
4)  Duck! 




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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

DARK CLOUD PEOPLE

Ever know any of those people who carry negative energy around them like … a circle of dark flies hovering over their heads?


These are the folks who walk into a room of happy people and the tone drops - CRASH!  BANG!

Or they walk through a lobby and you swear you can see a trail of snail slime behind them!

Okay, I'm getting a little gross here but we all have run into these people, right?

What do ya say?

Know how to zip up and avoid the slime?



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Thursday, July 23, 2015

WHOSE FAULT IS THAT?

"This guy I know, actually I thought he was a friend… I ran into him in the Lobby and he acted like I was invisible.  I mean, I know he saw me." 

"I wonder what I did to upset him."


Sound at all familiar?

You should have heard her list of possibilities.  Yikes!



It never even occurred to her that maybe the guy was in his own zone… or even more likely, maybe he was just being a total jerk!

What do ya say?
Do you always think it's your fault?



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Wednesday, July 22, 2015

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - FEEDING YOUR 'HAPPY' BRAIN

Like any other 'information system' the content we feed into our brains affects the outcome…

If we believe we are constantly improving, that our efforts make a difference, we are able to reinforce forward momentum.  If we constantly judge ourselves harshly we handicap our ability to improve.

We are not talking about false applause.  If we break something we don't tell ourselves it didn't shatter!  We also don't scold ourselves for being a klutz!   Instead we can say,' Hmmm, I wonder what that was about, and what information it gives me to up my game.  Was I distracted?  Is there something I need to take care of that I didn't realize?'

Perfection is a false and truly problematic concept.  Improvement is an attainable reality!




DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           
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A DAILY SWEEP FOR OPTIMAL BRAIN MAINTANENCE

One of the greatest threats to our self improvement is anger - directed at ourselves in the form of our inner Victim and our inner Bully.  To keep your game at its best do a daily sweep for these two 'bugs'…

1)  Ask yourself it your self talk sounds Victimy… You know how this sounds, right? Hints are:  'poor me', 'I never get it right', 'I can't', 'life sucks'.  The word 'try' is a great Victim indicator… As in "I'm trying, but…"

2)  Look for the Bully.  Again most of us know this routine…   
 Hints are:  Any scolding statements ie. 'I can't believe you did it AGAIN!', 'You are hopeless', 'You are __________(fill in any pejorative adjective!)

3)  Ask yourself what you are angry about.  If you are being a Bully or playing Victim there is always anger!  Make 3 anger statements:  "I'm angry that______."  and see what comes up.

4)  Do something healthy to release that anger.  Try imaginary dialogs with others, hit a pillow, a punching bag, ride a bike, dance hard…

5)  Do 3 sentences every day of your loving compassionate voice.  (No, don't gag!  This is really important!)  This is your internal cheerleader.  Come up with 3 'Yay yous'!   

        


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Tuesday, July 21, 2015

IMPROVING YET?

  
When someone asked the wonderful master cellist Pablo Casals why, in his 90's, he continued to practice everyday he responded that he was beginning to notice some improvement…

Enough said, right?

Each of us can practice every day - and truly - though maybe slowly - begin to notice some improvement.

In what?

In our attitudes about ourselves!
Being pro-active (practicing every day) actually sends messages to the brain which combat those pesky feelings of inadequacy and depression.

And what difference does it make to the world whether we are down in the dumps or actively enjoying and learning from the moments of our lives?

To paraphrase another wise elder, the Jewish sage Hillel is famous for reminding us of this in his words: 
 "If I am not for myself who is for me? … And if not now, when?"


…and finally we can interpret the words of another great leader down to this same personal level:

What do ya say?
Can you get this one?
  
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