Tuesday, November 13, 2018

KVELL, MUCH?

How many times today - yesterday - even the day before - did you pat yourself on the shoulder and say 'yea!'?
Okay, so the day wasn't perfect and there were a lot of things on that list of yours that didn't get crossed off…
And maybe all your interactions with other humans weren't exactly perfect…
It's really easy to pick it apart, isn't it?
But…

How many times did you smile at what you did manage?

What do ya say? You realize why this is important, right?



Friday, November 9, 2018

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MAKING A CHOICE!

Let's face it, it's easier to say 'people don't like me because of who I am' (totally out of my hands), rather than saying, 'it's something I am doing that is causing this reaction', (in my hands).
Maybe I don't really care?
Maybe I am okay with the impact I am having?
Fine, but…
I need to call it like it is, acknowledging my choices and the repercussions they create…


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

Think about a few times recently when you felt like you were on the losing side of an interaction…
Now, for a moment, imagine that you do have power, and actually might be creating some of the reaction that you are getting.
Imagine that you just might be acting in a way that helps create this outcome and… that perhaps, just perhaps, the outcome is something you might have an investment in!






Thursday, November 8, 2018

OUTGOING!
Ever think about the impact you have on others?
You know, how they react to you?


Ever wonder how much you confuse/conflate their responses with your output?

What do ya say?

How many times have you just assumed they don't like you because of who you are… and not because of how you act?



Tuesday, November 6, 2018

WHEN AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCCEED…

Don't you just hate it when you work really hard to accomplish something - give it your all - and it goes sideways!?
So... what?
You try again, right?
Even harder!
And SPLAT! Nothing! 
Then you ask for help…
No dice there either!



What do ya say? You know what happens next, right?




YOU VOTED, RIGHT?
IT COUNTS!



Wednesday, October 31, 2018

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - WHAT IF?

When things are really dark it is easy for us to feel discouraged and want to give up.
Part of the reason for this feeling of impotence is that we look at the big picture and feel helpless to tackle it.
What allows us to break the spell of helplessness is to play to our own strengths…
Are you a one-on-one person?
Help one person.
Are you a group person?
Join and work through a group.
Are you a writer?  An artist?  A singer of songs?  A teller of jokes?
Find your m├ętier.  Go with your skill set.
Let your contribution be small.  It's okay as long as you feel it and do it!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

Where did you get the idea that unless it's big and dramatic it doesn't count?
Think about who gave you these messages?
Now imagine talking to them and informing them they were wrong!




Tuesday, October 30, 2018

WHAT CAN I DO?

These days this is a constant refrain … right after "I am so stressed!" 
And
"I feel so helpless."
In Judaism there is a strong belief in the obligation we each have to help in the process of Tikkun Olam, or healing the world.
What can you do?
Perhaps you can make one person feel better today?

What do ya say?
You understand the concept, right?
Even one act of kindness helps to heal ourselves and our world.



Friday, October 26, 2018

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - YES OR NO?

Why is saying 'no' so challenging?
Think about it.
Life is easier for parents and teachers when kids are compliant and say 'yes'.
Pretty understandable.
Children hear 'be nice' on a regular basis.
Unfortunately, nice and compliant don't always make sense when we're all grown up…
So, we learn to say 'yes' and seem accommodating - that good old 'go along to get along' behavior.
But…
There are times we really don't want to go along.
So…
We've developed this pattern of pretending to agree but actually throwing a spanner into the works. 
It's our way of saying: "You can't make me do what I don't want to!" 
and, even better... 
"You can't really hold me accountable!"


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

BE CONSCIOUS!
Tune into your own passive aggressive behavior.
Make a mental list of the times you say 'yes' when you really want to say 'no'.
What usually happens?
Interesting, right?