Wednesday, July 23, 2014

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - AND WHAT ARE YOU HERE FOR?

As we've been noticing, how we define ourselves is a function of many factors including family and community beliefs.

However, when these beliefs are detrimental to our health and well being perhaps it is time to let them go.

One of our 80+ year old friends told us about meeting a new arrival to her retirement community.

"So," she asked the newbie, "and what brought you here?"

"I came here to die," the newcomer stated.

"That," our wise friend informed her, "is the stupidest thing I ever heard!"





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An opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...

Imagine that you could change some of the personal attitudes you've been carting around with you...

WHICH ONES WOULD YOU CHANGE?

* Make a list - this might include rules about who you are 'supposed' to be and how you 'should' act.

* What feelings come to you when you think about changing these things?  These feelings might range anywhere from joy to fear.

* Now imagine yourself making these changes.  Pay attention to your breathing.  What happens?

* Do a dress rehearsal.  Take one of these 'shifts' and actually try it out for a day.  Do you experience barriers to trying this?  What are they?  Can you identify where the 'noise' comes from?

*Finally, give yourself permission to throw off some of the unnecessary baggage that you've been carrying.  
How does it feel?






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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

OOO LA LA

So this lady came to our table to say hello and give a gift to a gentleman sitting with us.  It was a tiny bejeweled Eiffel Tower.  

She was thanking him for some introductions to people on her recent trip to Paris…

No big deal right?

Except the lady was in her 80's and it was her first trip ever out of her native country…

Oh, yeah, and she told us all that her favorite part was the Folies Bergere …


"It wasn't that they were all naked," she informed us adamantly.

"It was how beautifully they decorated their bodies with all that glitter and spangles!"

So, who said getting old had to be terrible?


What do ya say?
Attitude is everything, right?



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Thursday, July 17, 2014

BEDTIME STORIES

Here's another one we tend to take for granted about positioning - Remember that story about the Grasshopper and the Ant?  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ant_and_the_Grasshopper

Most of us grew up hearing a version of it as we drifted off to sleep - thereby ingesting the message in that semi hypnotic state…

And really what was the message? 
That hard work was necessary for survival

The lazy, fun loving grasshopper was doomed to suffer and those miserable ants who were not having fun would get through the winter…


Now it's true that the top note of this fable was about working hard to make it in the world, but think about the secondary message.  Not only was having fun dangerous, but it was totally divorced from survival. 

Work or fun.  You could have a choice. 
Backbreaking work = survival.  Fun = starvation…  Hmmm…

No wonder so many of us don't think of work as fun…

What do ya say?
Did this one get to you?


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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

WHAT DETERMINES WHERE WE STAND…

AND WHAT CAN WE DO TO CHANGE OUR POSITION?

A lot of the time we are not even aware that we have positioned ourselves in a certain way - that our beliefs about who we are and how we should react to the world and people around us are not etched in stone, and that we can shift and change that position. 

Although our points of reference have been conditioned by the beliefs of our parents and other influential people in our lives - this is pretty natural - what we often lose sight of is that we can choose to 're-locate' ourselves.

Think about some of the beliefs you have about who you are.  How many of these beliefs do you think are actually your intrinsic nature, and how many do you think have to do with the 'positions' you have bought into?





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HERE'S A FUN EXPERIMENT TO TRY ~

Imagine that you are a professional portrait photographer.
Take a photograph of yourself.

This is a magic photo which shows not only an image, but also your beliefs about yourself, your beliefs about your significance in the world and beliefs about your connections to others…

What do you think about who you are, how you look, what others think of you, what you are 'supposed' to do in your life.  Do you see yourself as beautiful?  Smart?  Funny?  Loved?  Worthy of love?  What words would you use to label this portrait of yourself?

Now as the photographer, change things! 

Stand at a different location, use different lenses and filters. 
Create a different image of the same human…
Now re-label the image.  What words describe this new creation? 

See how many shifts you can create and how many different ways you can see yourself…





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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

WHERE DO YOU STAND?

  

This great quote, by American photographer and environmentalist, Ansel Adams doesn't just pertain to taking pictures, but also to life in general. 



To a large extent, where we position ourselves in life determines what we see and how we feel.

If we look at someone else's behavior towards us as a reflection on us we are standing in a very precarious position!

If we look at things that go wrong as part of an ongoing pattern in our life, we will miss the rest of the picture!

If we see life as limited and dangerous, we create a picture that shows danger and limitations! 

What do ya say?
Where do you position yourself?



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Sunday, July 13, 2014

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Friday, July 11, 2014

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - HELPING YOURSELF HEAL


When we are ailing, whether from injury or illness, we tend to feel vulnerable.  

Interestingly, many members of the animal kingdom intuitively realize this and look for safe refuges - remains of wounded animal have been found in caves and around areas of hot springs.

Finding refuge and support makes sense when we are wounded.  This intuitive, seemingly hard wired, primitive response would seem to come from the awareness that in a more vulnerable state we easily become prey. 

Unfortunately, we humans seem to have developed the habit of not only being less 'care-ful' of ourselves at these times, but actually turning on ourselves. 

We often re-act to our vulnerability with anger.  We become bullies, scolding ourselves for getting sick or incurring an injury.  We look for ways we have caused the problem, ascribing fault and blame. 

Once we begin the process of bullying ourselves, we trigger feelings of helplessness and rebellion, often refusing to take the necessary steps in supporting the healing process.





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3 STEPS TO EMPOWER YOURSELF IN THE HEALING PROCESS

DO WHAT YOU CAN!
Take some proactive positive steps - research shows it helps!

1)  Find a doctor who feels like an ally and doesn't diminish your attempts to participate in your own healing.

2)  Try some alternatives.  Many alternative therapies can nicely add to traditional medicine.  And many self-help therapies allow us to feel more empowered which seems to aid in healing.  Self-hypnosis, visualization and massage are all things that allow us to feel like we are participating in our recovery.

3)  Try some positive 'Self Talk'.  Talk to the part of you that is hurting - and give it a voice - let it be part of a dialog.  A typical conversation might be:
         
You
"I don't understand how this happened!  And I don't like it!"

          Ailing Body Part:  
         "Well, I don't like it either!  I hurt!"

         You:  
         "Well, what can I do to make thing better?"

          Body Part:  
         "Pay attention to me!  I need you to focus on how to help me!  
          And stop being so angry!







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