Tuesday, January 17, 2017

'ISM'S' AND OTHER LABELS


"He's a dog!"



No, they were not putting anyone down. 





They were actually explaining - or attempting to explain - the behavior of their four legged companion!

Notice how we grab onto labels to excuse, ratify, explain away, critique and demystify behavior? 

What do ya say?
Useful or not?


Friday, January 13, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - FINDING IT

If you dance, you know how easy it is to loose your rhythm - a momentary lose of focus, a misstep, a moment spacing out, missing the count…

And you know we're not just talking about dancing, but about life.

You also know that truly successful (ie. satisfied) people know that losing that rhythm is part of being human, and that accepting this reality allows us to re-calibrate and find it again!



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

YOUR BULLY IS A RHYTHM BUSTER!

Ever hear yourself mutter any of these:
"I'm lazy!"
"I can't stay focused!
"Should, should, should!"
"Bad, bad, bad!"

What do you think would happen if instead you said:
"No problem, today I'm off.  I am human and I can take a down day!"

And
"I have tools to re-find my rhythm!"

What are your tools?
*Friends and allies
*Deep breathing
*Actually exaggerating the off-centeredness to the point of laughter
*Moving your body as a reminder of where your balance point is
*Singing out loud
*Laughing out loud…







Thursday, January 12, 2017

RIDE THE RHYTHM!

You know when you're there, right?
You can feel it in sports, dancing, singing…


How about walking?  Being in nature? 

With your animal buddies?

Hanging with your human friends?
That wonderful sense of being…




And when you lose it?
You really know when that feeling's gone!

What do ya say?
Got the rhythm?
Catch it!



Wednesday, January 11, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - APPLAUSE?

How did most of us get so jammed up in our attempts to get that very straight forward, simple acknowledgment that we crave and need?

What created the belief that wanting this is wrong?

Can we blame it on bullying parents?
On a narcissistic, attention hogging sibling?
On an overly demanding teacher?

If we assume that needing recognition is a normal human desire, how can we go about getting it in a healthy, productive way?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

A 5 STEP 'APPLAUSE EVALUATION'

I)  To what degree do you feel appreciated by: (rate this on a scale of 1-10 with 10 high)
* Family?
* Friends?
* Work?
* Neighbors?
* Romantic Partners?

II)  Do you play humble and hope others will figure out your contribution and acknowledge you?

III)  Do you go in the opposite direction and grandstand in order to get acknowledged?

IV)  Are you a 'know-it-all' always correcting and adding to others statements?

V)  Were you a teacher's pet and still play that role hoping to get that same type of applause?

ARE YOUR STRATEGIES WORKING FOR YOU? 







Tuesday, January 10, 2017

BRAVO! BRAVO!

We all need to be appreciated…
You, me, all of us.

We need the 'Yay you!', A+, Golden Globe, Thank you, Hand clapping validation that tells us we did it, we count, we make a difference.


BUT

Some of us go about getting it in the most twisted, distorted, backwards, ineffective ways possible.


What do ya say?

You do know what I mean, right?


Friday, January 6, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - COMPARE/COMPETE?

Comparing is actually another word for competition…
You get that, right?

Whether you win or lose, whether you have more or less than the other guy, you are in a competitive position.

And what's wrong with that, you ask?

Sooner or later there's someone nearby who looks like they have more… and then, well, that doesn't feel so good!


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                          
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

TRY A 1960'S HEADSET…

Forget the other guy and find your own space…
* Who are you?
* What do you want?
* What makes you happy?







Thursday, January 5, 2017

COMPARED TO WHAT?

"When I feel down in the dumps," she said, "I look around me and compare myself to others and remind myself to be grateful for what I have!"


Interesting, right?

Another version of that parental, 'Eat your food!  Think about all those poor starving children in…'

What do ya say?
Did it work then?
Does it work now?