Thursday, June 22, 2017

MANDATES

"So," she said, "I realized how I was getting myself in trouble… and I plan to change it immediately!"

Whoops!

Why whoops?
Doesn't changing non-productive behavior ASAP sound like a good idea?


Think about the times you've tried this strategy…


What do ya say?

Did it really work?
For how long?






Wednesday, June 21, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MEMORIES…

It's interesting to think about how memory works and the function it plays in our lives.

It's obviously part of the way we learn. 

Our memory allows us to avoid danger (think: that ubiquitous story of the child burning its finger on something hot and not doing that again.)

But, what happens when we re-shape past reality to fit current beliefs? 

And even more importantly, what happens to current reality when we squeeze it to fit those past beliefs?


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

THE DANGER OF DISTORTION

Think about some of the stories you tell yourself about the past.
          Stories about who you were…
          Stories about how others perceived you…
          Stories about your friends and family…

What did you take away from those stories that continues to impact your current reality and beliefs?

Do you want to hold onto these stories… or maybe let them go?







Tuesday, June 20, 2017

RETROGRADE MEMORY

'Those were the best years of my life…'

'We were so close…'

'I always thought you were wonderful…'


HAH!

Are you kidding me?

Make it NOW!
Or…
Let it go!




What do ya say?

Do you get this one?



Friday, June 16, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - ENABLED!

No one can diminish us if we acknowledge the limitations they are pointing out - especially if we get there first!

By outing ourselves we actually become more powerful by:
1)  Stealing our 'opponents' thunder
2)  Showing our courage
3)  Mitigating the sting of the limitation and actually changing it into a strength by bringing it into the light

This is not at all the same as portraying ourselves as victims but rather as victors!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHAT LIMITATIONS DO YOU HAVE?

If you said 'none' you fail the 'human' test!

Are you:
Elderly?
Young?
Dyslexic?
On that famous Autism spectrum?
Dealing with a physical challenge?
A mental challenge?

You get the drift of this, right?  Do you actually know anyone who doesn't have limitations?

Wouldn't life feel easier if we just called it like it is and moved on?





Thursday, June 15, 2017

WHAT MAKES YOU STRONG?

We've all heard that saying:  'What doesn't kill you, makes you strong.'

And it probably sounded like one of those Pollyanna, making lemonade out of lemons things, right?

But…
How about changing it up a tiny bit?



How about: 'Acknowledging our limitations makes us strong'?




What do ya say? 
Do you get this one?

Ever try it?


Wednesday, June 14, 2017

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - SHORT-HANDING…

Creating categories to slot people and experiences into is part of the way we humans try to simplify our reality.

It's a pervasive behavior though out all cultures.  Our labels are intended to create a short-hand to help us in our interactions with our complex worlds.

In reality, instead of making our lives easier, these labels we paste onto others can actually distort reality, creating additional stress, anger and exclusion.


DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

CHECK OUT YOUR OWN SHORT-HAND

Think about the people who touch your life - those you are close to and those on the periphery…

How do you define them?  In relation to you?  In relation to others?
Think about the words you use to describe them:  generous, selfish, controlling, insecure?

What made you choose those labels?  Are they really based on your own experience or did you hear them from others?

What would happen if you took a totally fresh look at people without those labels?








Tuesday, June 13, 2017

ASSUMPTIONS…

"I hate when people make assumptions about me," he groaned.

"They base them on some weird metrics and beliefs about who I am and then shove me into these boxes…"


"Ugh!"

"And then," he continued rolling his eyes, "they treat me based on their story!"


What do ya say?
You don't do this, right?