"Grudges must feel satisfying in some way; if they didn’t, we might not be as likely to hold on to them for so long …" read more
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” Anne Lanott - Traveling Mercies:Some Thoughts on Faith
So what is the story on this one?
Who has the heaviest burden, the 'grudger' or the 'grudgee'?
And how often does the recipient of the grudge even know they are the target of this emotional vendetta?
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun
HOLDING A GRUDGE? CHECK IT OUT:
Let's have some fun with this one…
Who are you holding a grudge about?
More than one person?
Make a list.
Do you see any common threads in the content of your grudges? The types of people you are holding grudges against?
Imagine, just for a minute, that you might actually be enjoying the process of holding on… How could that be? Is it possible that you feel powerful in this position? (Just a thought…)
Now imagine that you could say anything you want to your 'grudgee' (fantasy, folks, you can really push it!) Get into it and exaggerate - you'll know you have really stretched this one if you start laughing…
And finally decide - totally your choice - if you want to continue to carry this particular load or let it go?
Remember choice is the operative word on this one - Hey if you want to keep carrying the weight no one has the right to take it away from you, right?
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