What causes us to imitate behavior we might not even like? And keep repeating it again and again… Especially attitudes and beliefs from our parents and older siblings?
The word 'older' might be a clue.
Here's another clue:
The story goes that once upon a time the prized morsels for cannibals came from the enemies that they felt had the most power…
In our formative years we tend to absorb and imitate behavior of those around us who we perceive as having the most power.
A tone of voice, a way of reacting, facial expressions, even our manner of moving and entire family belief systems are things that we often automatically and somewhat 'hypnotically' absorb.
These behaviors then become our pre-set buttons - our behavioral short cuts that are easily triggered especially in times of stress.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun
CHECK OUT YOUR PRE-SETS
PRE-SET BUTTONS ARE EFFECTIVE SHORT-CUTS, OR ARE THEY?
Pay attention to how you react to situations that are stressful, dangerous or demanding. These are times that the pre-set response is most likely to be triggered.
Think about it.
Do you like how you re-act in these situations?
If you answer 'yes' then your pre-set is useful - hang on to it.
If you answer 'no' give yourself permission to change your pre-set response.
To change pre-sets:
* Ask yourself whose shoes you are clumping around in
* Did their behavior make you happy?
* Create three other possible responses to this same situation
* Try each of these new responses -
They may feel artificial for awhile - new behavior sometimes does.
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