What causes us to imitate behavior we might not even
like? And keep repeating it again and
again… Especially attitudes and beliefs from our parents and older siblings?
The word 'older' might be a clue.
Here's another clue:
The story goes that once
upon a time the prized morsels for cannibals came from the enemies that they
felt had the most power…
In our formative years we tend to absorb and imitate behavior
of those around us who we perceive as having the most power.
A tone of voice, a way of reacting, facial expressions, even
our manner of moving and entire family belief systems are things that we often
automatically and somewhat 'hypnotically' absorb.
These behaviors then become our pre-set buttons - our behavioral
short cuts that are easily triggered especially in times of stress.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An
opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...
CHECK OUT YOUR PRE-SETS
PRE-SET BUTTONS ARE EFFECTIVE SHORT-CUTS, OR
ARE THEY?
Pay attention to how you react
to situations that are stressful, dangerous or demanding. These are times that the pre-set response is
most likely to be triggered.
Think about it.
Do you like how you re-act
in these situations?
If you answer 'yes' then
your pre-set is useful - hang on to it.
If you answer 'no' give
yourself permission to change your pre-set response.
To change pre-sets:
* Ask yourself whose shoes
you are clumping around in
* Did their behavior make
you happy?
* Create three other
possible responses to this same situation
* Try each of these new
responses -
They
may feel artificial for awhile - new behavior sometimes does.
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