Friday, September 27, 2013


a feeling of self-consciousness, shame, or awkwardness.
mortificationhumiliationshame, shamefacedness, chagrin,awkwardness, self-consciousness, sheepishness, discomfort,discomfiture, discomposure

Embarrassment is an emotional state of intense discomfort with oneself, experienced upon having a socially unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others. Usually some amount of loss of honor or dignity is involved, but how much and the type depends on the embarrassing situation   read more

Any of this sound familiar?  

How about as a constant experience from about age 12 until. . .

The definition of adolescence seems to be an overriding feeling of awkwardness!  

It is the time of school and playground cliques; the days of feeling like an outsider, regardless of any reality checks.  The age of the ‘mean’ kids and the dorks. . . 

It is a time when most of us feel seriously ugly no matter how any one else perceives us.  The days when one pimple – especially located on the nose – can bring on the deepest of depressions! 

Remember those days? 

During this very vulnerable time, when our hormones are creating internal chaos and our senses are heightened to the extreme, our feelings and experiences get recorded with a very strong ink – almost indelible!  

And without our permission, we tend to drag that imprint with us for many years to come!


An opportunity to experiment with some fun

In reality, who cares if they come to your party?  All that food can go in the freezer, right…

This is an opportunity to get in touch with your internal teenager.  
That’s the part of you that blushes easily, still caring about THEM.

Talk to adolescent you – tell that part of you buried deep (ok for some of us not so deep) inside that s/he is fine whether THEY 'show up for your party' or not!

Now let your internal teenager answer. 

Really get into this and have some fun.  Let your teenage energy go for it! 

Put some whine and rebel into the dialog. 

Resentment?  Sure. 

Allow this dialog to develop between your compassionate adult voice (yes, we all do have one of these!) and your internal teenager.

Remember, the more fun you have with it - the more you exaggerate that teenage voice - the more you begin to release those long-ago imprinted, painful feelings!

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