Wednesday, January 23, 2013


When we say “It’s not fair”, we are stating that we expect life itself to follow certain rules of justice and fairness.

Life just is.  Humans make, follow and break rules.
The delusion of an external fairness can often lead to a sense of profound betrayal and sometimes even depression.

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...

Why do we keep expecting ‘fair’ when all our experience highlights the painfulness of holding on to this concept?

What is keeping us from letting go of this dysfunctional belief?

Check all that apply:
            _  My mother told me so it has to be true!

            _  I still believe in Santa Claus and the tooth fairy!

            _  It is the way I want things to be!

            _  It’s the way things should be!

            _  I’ve invested too much time and energy in this to let it go!

            _  I’m stubborn!

What’s your excuse?  If you have any really good ones, please share…

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  1. Thank you so much! I can't tell you how much this is helping me! No matter how busy I get I make sure to check in once a day - and it really makes a difference! Sometimes I re-read an old post and it hits me in a new way - this is so useful!

  2. I'm spreading the word and sharing your blog with a bunch of my friends!

  3. Yes it is so true life is not fair. a fact of life. thanks for the reminder part of growing up we should be taught this early
    i try to remember maybe i did learn early i do remember saying that's not fair....well so it is.