SERIOUSLY SPEAKING
To take the hit: To cope with something unpleasant with out complaining – to endure a period of mental, physical or emotional hardship without complaint.
Taking the hit for someone else is viewed by our society as a positive value. Remember the Rocky Balboa quote about taking the hits? more Rocky
But the cost to the individual can be high.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
Should you take the hit? To decide answer the following questions:
Who are you doing this for?
What do you expect to achieve by covering for someone else?
Are you trying to live up to an image?
Do you really believe in this or are you trying to please someone else?
How will you feel tomorrow? A week from now? Next year?
We don’t want to be creating new internal resentments, so it’s important to be really clear about why you are allowing yourself to take the hit!
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very interesting ...lots to think about. should we
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These questions are very thought provoking. I always take the hit in my family -- to keep the peace or avoid confrontation. Also, then everyone thinks I'm so sweet and nice and accommodating. But it is becoming wearing. For example, the other day I was having 8 family members to dinner and at the last minute a family member asked if 4 more could come -- my usual reaction would be -- of course; my house is the open warm house where everyone is invited any time of day -- there's always plenty of food and love for all. But actually, it meant I had to leave work early to get more food and clean up for 4 more (because trust me my family member would not be staying late to help clean up!). I guess my fear is that if I don't take the hit; include the extra guests, then I will be considered ungenerous -- or that my house isn't the warm place where all are welcome day and night. But I said no -- it was hard -- but it's getting exhausting always taking the hit -- I'm beginning to practice pushing back -- hopefully, I'll come to the point where it feels comfortable and I won't worry about not being loved -- my bet is that those who truly love me still will even if I don't take the hit.
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