What happens to others
in our circles when we change?
Why might they have
trouble with the concept?
If we think about our
connections to others as being part of a movie, we can see clearly that if we
change one scene or one character, it is logical that the total movie changes!
Our repositioning requires
that the others in our movie also change.
If they don't shift, than the entire picture is out of kilter and can
feel uncomfortable to them. This often requires
them to acknowledge their own stuckness.
Another reason for the
discomfort others feel with our changes is that it can make them feel out of
control. The world they had neatly cataloged
and stored is suddenly different.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun
ideas...
TRY THIS EXERCISE:
Think of situations - or people - in your life where either you or they changed unexpectedly ....
How did you/they react?
Supportive?
Helpful?
Dismissive?
Contemptuous?
Mocking?
How did you/they feel?
Angry?
Jealous?
Inadequate?
Lost?
Confused?
Happy?
What do you think it would take to accept and maybe even embrace the change?
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this is true, carol. a friend of mine had a drinking problem and when he stopped his family should have been happy but they were so used to him being the drunk they freaked out and started offering him alcohol. weird behavior from those humans, i thought
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I hear you on this, Mike. I had an ex of mine whose family loved to make fun of her because she didn't have a job. Now, she's been employed for years, and her family makes fun of her for the perfectly fine job she has. It's odd how they feel the need to treat her the same, even when she's changed so completely.
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