Wednesday, February 20, 2013

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING

Is it possible that we are genetically programmed for this one too? 

There is no way to ignore whining.  Whining is one of the most annoying sounds known to us – like fingernails on a chalkboard, it’s a sound that instantly gets our attention. 

That grating tone of voice jangles our nerves, stops us in our tracks, and makes us react.

Some theories suggest that there could be a survival of the species role for this un-ignorable sound.




DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...



The following suggestions are borrowed from a web-site dealing with whining kids – but hey…  (read more)

FIVE SURE FIRE STEPS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH WHINERS:


1)      Realize that the person is not using whining to deliberately drive you crazy!  They just want to be heard, so it’s a good thing, right?

2)     Call out the whining!  Demonstrate to the whiner how they sound – but of course don’t be mocking!  (Ha)

3)     Practice your Buddha breathing – stay calm… (teeth gritting is not recommended!)

4)     Do not give in!

5)     When all else fails … stick out your tongue and stick your fingers in your ears! 

Hey, age appropriate, right?


What do ya say?  Any other strategies?


TOMORROW:  SILVER LININGS



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7 comments:

  1. Thanks Carol! I hate whiners but never stopped to really think about why they annoy me so much. Actually I thought maybe it was just me. You know, lack of compassion? Now I know differently and feel so much better!

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    1. yeah, it's nice to know that awful sound gets everyone!
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  3. My parents never rewarded whining and "tattle telling" and I believe that their parenting brought up a few well adjusted young men.

    #back patting

    I think it is a good policy to adopt when rearing children.

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    1. Nice! Back pats for you for sure - and major ones to your parents! They should get an anti-noise polution reward!

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    2. Your parents were really smart. I think people often give kids a pass on this. Maybe cause it's easier not to deal, but then = Adult Whiners! Ugh!

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  4. I'd appreciate if you did a post on how to STOP whining!

    I'm someone who definitely has a problem with self-pity, and I'm aware of it, although not always in total control. I'm sure it has much to do with entitlement and feeling like I "deserve" something when in reality there is no such justification. But, it never hurts to have a bit of professional opinion!

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