Do you get angry because of situations that should be different?
Do people hurt your feelings by acting in ways that probably were predictable - but not what you wanted?
Remember, knowing what to expect doesn't necessarily mean enjoying the behavior.
Recognizing who someone is or what the situation brings with it isn't always great. But faking yourself out with unrealistic expectations is a guarantee for trouble!
It can be challenging to see things as they are - we grow up with many 'shoulds' about our behavior and that of others.
Dealing with reality doesn't mean giving up our ideals - it just means taking care of ourselves!
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Maybe slightly paraphrased but you get the idea, right?
We all have dreamed about impossible situations becoming reality. The problem comes when we trick ourselves into forgetting what's real … which usually leads to a major CRASH!
Think about some of the situations in your life where you were shocked by someone's behavior:
Maybe the actions of a boss or co-worker?
How about the way a partner or spouse acted that took you by surprise?
A nasty comment about your appearance from a friend or relative?
Now ask yourself if the action of the other person was really surprising based on who they are and how they have acted in the past.
How many times did they act in this same manner?
How often can you imagine someone, with their personality, in the same situation really acting differently?
Be honest on this one - it's not about how you want someone to act or how you feel they should act, but about what is predictable.
Now ask yourself what you felt when this happened?
Hurt? Angry? Dismayed? Betrayed?
And finally ask yourself how you would have felt if you had expected them to act exactly in the predictable way they behaved?
Would you have made different choices if you expected this behavior?
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