SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - GUILT TRIPS

Beginning at a very early age, we teach our children to take responsibility for their actions.

This is a good thing.

However, sometimes inadvertently we 'over-teach', accidentally training our children to take responsibility for everyone's actions!

As an adult, analyzing your interactions with others and learning from them is also a good thing.

However, it's dangerous when you start taking ownership of other people's actions ("It's my fault that they…")

This can easily lead to the slippery slope of sloppy boundaries - and creep into the realm of narcissistic (read self-centered) thinking!

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SETTING BOUNDARIES AND DRAWING LINES

In this arena we often unknowingly continue in whatever tradition we learned as kids.

What did your parents say when you had a 'negative' interaction with another person?

Do any of these statements sound familiar:

"What did you do!?"

"Well, you must have done something!"

"I'm sure if you think about it, you can find what you did wrong!"

Or did you hear:

"Of course it wasn't your fault!"

"I'm going to talk to your teacher!"

"I'm going to talk to that other child's mother!"

"I'm going to talk to that child!"

And then there was this one:

"Did you hit him back?"

DO ANY OF THESE SOUND FAMILIAR?

How do you think they might be influencing you today?

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