Does forgiving mean forgetting about what happened?
To paraphrase the Dalai Lama the best solution is to remember the lesson and let go of the negative incident.
This allows us to move forward in life without bitterness. It enables us to continue to learn from our life without carrying the weight of ‘bad’ experiences.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
As long as we keep learning from our experiences we don’t need to feel bitter - there’s always a plus! Ask yourself what the ‘take away’ from each experience.
A fun way to facilitate this process:
Imagine you can create a box to archive the ‘story’ of any negative experience that you are holding onto. For your box create a table of contents, a video version, and a summary of the story. You are going to store this box in a special ‘cloud’ location that is accessible only in case of dire need.
Before you store the box, take a moment to analyze what you learned from this experience - your ‘take away’. It might be about the specific people involved or a general life lesson.
Find a good way of keeping these life lessons accessible – maybe a computer file or a notebook or Diary – real or virtual.
Your entry might read:
Dear Diary – Today I had an interesting experience (note to self: see Cloud file only in an emergency!) What I learned was…
This process allows us to continue to learn – to allow all experiences to enrich us – even the ‘bad’ ones!
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