Let's face it - for all of us there are times when it feels like it is all falling down around us, right?
What's important is to acknowledge the impact of the crash!
Yeah, it can feel overwhelming. That's real life. What we want to avoid is playing tough, and then wondering why we are feeling down!
It's natural to feel like hiding under the bed, it's part of our nature to feel like it's not fair, or to look at other peoples' lives (from the outside) and decide that they have it easier…
What is not healthy is to start bullying ourselves at these times - the old standbys: 'It's your own fault', 'You deserve it' - you know this list, right? Really toxic!
Check it out and listen for it. Life is hard enough without that pile on!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
FOUR STEPS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE DOWNTIMES:
1) Acknowledge the tough stuff!
2) Make a list of what's getting to you.
3) Release tension:
Play victim! Yes, really get into it!
Remember the operative word is 'play'!
This means exaggeration! Try howling. A good 'AOOOOO!' straight out of the wolf playbook tends to help!
Your goal here is to release some of the tension that we tend to feel during these times. And if you can create a good laugh, so much the better!
4) Finally do something!
During these high stress times we sometimes feel paralyzed, so you are again looking to release the tied up energy by movement - go for a walk, sing a song… it doesn't have to be something that solves the problem!