How do you protect yourself from indirect emotional hits - better known as passive aggressive attacks?
Remember they tend to come out of the blue and take us by surprise, which is part of their power.
Can we tune into the high pitched sound of incoming loads about to be dropped on our heads?
The answer is yes!
The sound - in this case tone of voice, the words - often setting up the attack with excuses and justifications:
"I don't mean to bother you but…"
"I'm sorry to have to tell you this but…"
And yes, the word 'but' is a big giveaway.
Facial expression is another great clue - check out smiles combined with those 'apologetic' words.
And finally, how you feel as the bomb drops on your head. Short of breath? Tight muscles? Nauseas? All signs of an indirect bomb hit!
Once you start tuning into the rhythm and signs of these attacks they become really obvious and you can learn to duck!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
LEARNING TO DUCK…
Here are some easy 'get-away' lines to use once you recognize an incoming bomb:
"Oops! The phone's (the doorbell's) ringing. Gotta go!"
"Oh my gosh! I just realized I'm running late for…Gotta go!"
"Oops! Gotta go! Major stomach attack!"
You get the idea - give yourself permission to get out of the path of that nasty incoming attack!
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