Wednesday, May 29, 2013

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING – RELEASING HIDDEN ANGER IN 4 EASY STEPS


When we say we are feeling ‘blah’ or ‘down’ what we mean is that our affect is flat and our energy is low. 

It’s important to differentiate between a purely physical feeling like we can have when we are getting sick, or even sometimes on a medication.    

We often increase negative feelings by tormenting ourselves about feeling down!

The magic word is ‘awareness’.  

Once we identify what is actually going on we can begin to heal.




DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS
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Try these four easy steps to releasing hidden anger!


1)    Identify the problem:  Ask yourself how you are feeling.  For instance with the blahs you might answer: “Today I am feeling ‘off’.   My energy is low and nothing feels particularly good…”

2)    Awareness Step I:  Check to see if there is a physical issue – are you getting sick?  Did you start a new medication?  Did you run a marathon yesterday?  If the answer to any of these is yes, give yourself a break!  Rest and look forward to tomorrow.

3)    Awareness Step II:  If all the purely physical issues are under control, ask yourself if anything has recently happened that you might be annoyed about.  Did you just have a nasty phone call?  Someone forget to call you?  A run in with a neighbor of friend?  Remember this might have happened yesterday – and it can also be one of those things that you judge to be ‘too minor to bother you’.  Feelings don’t always correspond to our requirements!

4)    The Release:  If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the above, give yourself permission to be angry!  Try a few anger fantasies; a mean-spirited imaginary dialog with the offender goes a long way to relieving that tension that comes with pushed down anger. 






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