Like any other 'information system' the content we feed into our brains
affects the outcome…
If we believe we are constantly improving, that our efforts make a
difference, we are able to reinforce forward momentum. If we constantly judge ourselves harshly we
handicap our ability to improve.
We are not talking about false applause.
If we break something we don't tell ourselves it didn't shatter! We also don't scold ourselves for being a klutz!
Instead we can say,' Hmmm, I wonder
what that was about, and what information it gives me to up my game. Was I distracted? Is there something I need to take care of
that I didn't realize?'
Perfection is a false and truly problematic concept. Improvement is an attainable reality!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment
with some fun ideas...
A DAILY SWEEP FOR
OPTIMAL BRAIN MAINTANENCE
One of the greatest threats to our self
improvement is anger - directed at ourselves in the form of our inner Victim
and our inner Bully. To keep your game
at its best do a daily sweep for these two 'bugs'…
1) Ask yourself it your self talk sounds Victimy…
You know how this sounds, right? Hints
are: 'poor me', 'I never get it right', 'I
can't', 'life sucks'. The word 'try' is a great Victim indicator… As in "I'm
trying, but…"
2) Look for the Bully. Again most of us know this routine…
Hints are: Any scolding statements ie. 'I can't believe
you did it AGAIN!', 'You are hopeless', 'You are __________(fill in
any pejorative adjective!)
3) Ask yourself what you are angry about. If you are being a Bully or playing Victim there
is always anger! Make 3 anger statements: "I'm angry that______." and see
what comes up.
4) Do something healthy to release that anger. Try imaginary dialogs with others, hit a pillow, a punching bag, ride a bike,
dance hard…
5) Do 3 sentences every day of your loving
compassionate voice. (No, don't
gag! This is really important!) This is your internal cheerleader.
Come up with 3 'Yay yous'!
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