We all sometimes have difficulty setting healthy boundaries with others.
We put up with their 'stuff' because we are afraid of the repercussions…
On the one hand, we are afraid that if we call them on their behavior they will:
- not like us
- leave us
- tell everyone what a horrible person we are
- call us too demanding
- point out no one else has problems with them, so clearly it's us
On the other hand, if we don't call them on it, we have to tolerate their obnoxious behavior…
Interesting choice, right?
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
Adults set healthy boundaries and deal with the consequences.
They recognize their own worth. Their time and feelings deserve to be respected!
Children can't set boundaries. They don't have enough power - yet!
Ask yourself this one crucial question:
Do you feel respected by the other person's actions?
If the answer is 'no' give yourself permission to set a healthier boundary!