Some of us cut the cord immediately - as soon as things get 'iffy' we are out of there…
Others hang in until the last possible moment gasping at the lack of emotional oxygen…
What determines our timing?
We learn, as with so many things, through observation of those around us in our early formative years, and hopefully, also through our own experiences over the intervening years.
The important thing is to detach from old mandates and move ourselves into the realm of choice.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
HAVING A DIFFICULT TIME PULLING THE TRIGGER?
What are you waiting for? Does this sound like you?
1) 'I know they will change. It's only a matter of time…"
(Have you created a time line?)
2) 'I did speak to them about this! Isn't that great?'
(Did you get a real acknowledgment?
That means they took some responsibility for the problem and recognized it could be hurtful to you!)
3) 'Maybe it's me. My expectations might be too high.'
(Really? What do your friends and family say?)
4) 'I don't want to hurt/destroy them…'
(Do you think staying with someone you are never really satisfied with is healthy for them?)
5) I'm scared about changing. Maybe I'll be alone forever!'
(The open- endedness of not knowing what comes next can be unsettling - but also pretty exciting.)
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