Where do we pick up this concept of being obligated to the desires of others - especially to our own detriment?
That guy we wrote about yesterday was talking about 'carrying' employees who are clearly not up to par and even more painful, staying in relationships past their pull date because of worrying about the other person…
Is it really possible that the person on the other side of this dynamic doesn't realize what is going on?
Or is it possible that - from a position of entitlement - they just don't care?
What are we afraid might happen if we drop our end of the 'deal'?
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun
HOLDING ON? WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU LET GO?
To work yourself through this truly non-productive human dynamic, try this:
Think of a situation that you are in where you are saying 'yes' to someone else's demands when your heart and soul tell you to say 'no'.
Now imagine the worse case scenario if you were to say 'NO'.
The other person dies, commits suicide, kills you, bad mouths you, goes into a deep depression, never speaks to you again…
(Okaaay, that last choice there was starting to sound good - but I did ask you to go for worse case…)
Now imagine the best case scenario.
The other person tells you that you are a saint to have put up with them for so long, they say they will always remember you with fondness, they ask if you can still be friends…
(So, yeah, probably not gonna happen either…)
Now, thinking about your two extremes, what is the most realistic outcome?
MAYBE A LITTLE PAIN? MAYBE A LITTLE GAIN?
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