Words and how we use them are so important.
For instance, the word 'should' can be highly toxic!
Ever notice, how, when someone 'shoulds' you, your reaction is often of the knee-jerk variety?
"You should do x" almost always yields y!
And "You should not do x" almost always makes x irresistible.
'Should' no matter how well intended is a Bully word and most of us do not react well to being bullied!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
"Up yours," I screamed as I shot myself in the foot…
How many times do you think you have harmed yourself by reacting rebelliously to bullying?
Think about all the times someone has scolded you about what you are doing. What were they complaining about?
Did the 'problem' get better or worse?