What causes us to internalize our parent's voices, especially those negative, critical statements?
Here's a thought: Anthropologists used to believe that Cannibals would eat only the most powerful of their vanquished enemies, thereby internalizing that power…
Perhaps children do something similar?
Or perhaps when we are little we are in a constant state of 'hypnotic trance' absorbing the sound bytes that come our way, internalizing them and then pulling them out to use on ourselves at given times?
We seem to apply these internalized negative phrases to ourselves in moments of high stress, fear and anxiety - which might be exactly the conditions that were present in the moments that we learned them.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
DE-FUSING THOSE INTERNALIZED SOUND BYTES…
First: Identify the voice
Can you teach yourself to catch that negative message as it 'plays'?
Pay attention to changes in your body posture. Can you feel the shift in the way you stand?
Pay attention to the internal tone of your voice. Does it suddenly seem 'louder'? More strident?
Next: Ask yourself what situations trigger that nasty self-criticism.
Some of the possibilities might be:
Finally: Have a conversation with the internalized voice.
Play it out loud. Try exaggeration. Sing to it - Check out the Rolling Stones, "Get off of my Cloud" .
The idea is to help you recognize that something has triggered an old, very useless piece of noise that can only cause interference in the present!
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