"It's true," the father said, "I only point out what he doesn't do well… I mean he doesn't need help with the things he's got under control, right?"
Yikes! This is what we call the 'Birth of the Bully'!
In reality, criticism tends to create pretty destructive backlash…
Think about it.
How many times have you actually upgraded your act because someone tore you down?
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...
TUNING OUT BULLIES ~ TUNING IN COMPASSION
1) Identify who's talking to you.
The Bully says SHOULD!
The Bully mandates behavior
The Bully believes it is always right
The Bully is MEAN!
The Compassionate Voice says' how can I help you?'
The Compassionate Voice says 'who are you and what works for you?'
The Compassionate Voice says 'I am your ally'.
The Compassionate Voice says 'I want you to feel good and succeed.'
2) When you hear the Bully voice, duck and weave!
Get out of the path of this rigid toxicity.
See it for what it is.
Press the delete button to get rid of the Bully's mandates.
3) Practice the Compassionate Voice on yourself.
This is your internal cheerleader - your true BFF!
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