Sometimes it actually seems as if people are treasuring their anger and resentments… even those going back pretty far in time.
Like broody hens,they sit on these memories and nurture them recounting and recollecting each moment of annoyance…
Ever wonder what the hook is? Why would a person want to revisit a negative experience?
Seems counter-intuitive, right?
DANCE WITH IT!
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
WHAT'S THE HOOK?
See if any of these feelings fit for you…
1) FEAR: If I let it go and forget, it might happen again… if I hold on, I stay protected.
2) CONFUSION: I need to figure it out!
3) SENSE OF POWER: I won't let them get away with it!
4) HELPLESSNESS: By remembering the 'wrong' I am not letting them get away with it!
5) PUNISHMENT: They deserve these bad thoughts!
To paraphrase that great quote from the Dalai Lama: Throw away the experience, hold onto the lesson!