During our teen age years, we often create groups that provide a sense of belonging.
There are insiders and outsiders, them and us.
These bonds help us negotiate tough times - all the changes that occur as we move from childhood to our adult status.
One of the ways the borders of these groups are created and fortified is with gossip about the outsiders.
Sometimes people retain these connections throughout their lives - and sometimes we let go of the people but continue the behavior - taking gossip and bad mouthing to a sophisticated level…
What do we get from this continued behavior?
Sometimes gossip is just silly fun - no biggie - but when the bad-mouthing moves into group behavior of them vrs. us, it can easily become destructive.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
Ask yourself what you are getting from being part of a 'bad-mouth' moment…
Is it an indirect way of dealing with anger? Does this really help you?
Does it make you feel important? Is this the best way?
Does it make you feel safe? (If I'm part of the 'bashers' they won't get me.) Is this really true?