We mean well when we give those often heard commands, but…
The human brain doesn't appear to process negatives too well.
Like our dogs, we seem instead to register and process only the imperative in those seemingly helpful instructions.
Don't SIT. Don't STRESS. Don't EAT…
The more aware we are of this phenomenon, the more we can re-gain control of our responses - and of the 'help' we are trying to give others!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
RE-GROUP AND RE- PHRASE!
Think about all the times you used the negative before something you told someone else to do.
What was your goal?
How successful were you?
Now think about the ways you could have been more successful by leaving out the negation.
How would you re-phrase those 'orders'?