How can we possibly believe that what another person does is predicated entirely on their feelings about us?
It is as if we erase their entire life… they become only a reflection of our beliefs.
Pretty weird when you think about it, right?
The child who spills water on the floor while washing might be nearsighted or have astigmatism - or maybe is so worried about something that he is totally unaware of what is going on around him…
Does that occur to his angry mom? No. She is sure that he is just 'taking her for granted' and being disrespectful…
When we write a script that makes the entire world revolve around us we lose touch with reality - always a dangerous thing!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
Another easy one:
Choose three recent instances where someone else's behavior got to you.
Ask yourself if you were 'taking it personally' i.e. assuming that they were making a statement about you.
Now ask yourself what that behavior might have actually been - about them.
How do you feel about the situation when you 'disengage' in this way?
Might it help you figure out a better way of dealing with this particular person?