It takes a
tremendous amount of self awareness - not to mention self esteem and inner
strength - to say 'NO' to something we should
do but don't really want to.
So, sometimes we
say our 'no's' indirectly by breaking plates...
We test badly for a job we
really don't want but feel we should take, we get sick before an event we
should attend but don't really want to, we even sometimes get caught cheating to get
out of a relationship we haven't had the ability to end…
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun ideas…
The problem with
pushing back in this indirect manner is that we create …
s-u-f-f-e-r-i-n-g!
Think of some of the times in your life
you got out of doing something you really didn't want to do - but knew you should - by indirectly downgrading your
performance.
Make a list of each of these events.
Now remind yourself what you did to 'ruin' it.
(Hint: Usually these
are things we label as 'happening to us' not as 'done by us'!)
And finally, just
for a mental stretch, imagine you 'failed' because you really didn't want to do
whatever it was… and that it was okay not to do it!
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