How did it all get so difficult?
Where did we get the idea that saying something simply and directly was bad manners?
That we were supposed to hint and make end runs around what we were trying to say - especially when it had to do with something that we wanted or needed?
Could it have started with those parental voices saying, 'Ask nicely'?
Or maybe it was the 'rule' that telling someone what you wanted for your birthday was tacky?
Or perhaps that caveat: 'If they really care, they'll figure it out!'
When did communication turn into game playing and testing instead of simple and open sharing?
Perhaps it's time to give ourselves permission to just - kindly of course - tell it like it is?
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
Think about your own 'communo' style…
How would you describe your M.O.?
Taking responsibility for what you want and feel?
Or would you fall on the other side of the page…you know:
Twisting the burden of what you want onto the other?
If you think back in time, who did you learn your licks from?
Did you really like the way they dealt with the world?
Can you think of someone whose style you admire?
Imagine yourself using their model for your own style.
How does that feel?
Could you try it out for a day?