These emotions are normal and actually part of our healing process.
We get in trouble when we start chastising ourselves for having these feelings - a guaranteed strategy for prolonging our distress and getting stuck in the very emotions we attempt to bully ourselves out of!
When things feel out of control we get frightened and tend to look for a way to gain more control - logical, right?
However one of our favorite mechanisms seems to be releasing our inner bully to handle things.
Our bully voice takes over with its 'shoulds', its rules and mandates, scolding us and demanding we figure out what we did to cause the chaos.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
KNOW YOUR ENEMY!
Can you recognize your bully voice?
You might have heard it first from your mother, father, an older sibling, a teacher…
All well intentioned of course!
And then we internalize it and use it on ourselves…
5 FUN STEPS TO STOP THAT BULLY!
1) Catch the sound bite!
2) Say it out loud!
3) Exaggerate it!
4) Talk back! ('You are not helping! You are making things worse! Leave!')
5) Replace it with your inner ally!
('It's ok! Hang in there! We'll figure it out!')