The theory behind
focusing on what's missing in our lives, instead of what we have might come
from all the emphasis in our culture on pushing for more and better.
From an early age
we are encouraged to never be satisfied with what is in front of us, but rather
constantly told we have the potential to do and be more. We are often punished when we don't embrace this
belief. We get bad grades and get called
'lazy'.
While in theory
encouraging children to perform to their best potential might sound like a no
brainer, the focus on not being good enough permeates our belief
system, often creating a sense of deprivation and bitterness.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An
opportunity to experiment with some fun
ideas...
HOW MANY 'ROTTEN
APPLES' ARE YOU CARRYING?
How many times this
week did you focus on what was missing from your life?
How did doing this
make you feel?
Here's an
interesting experiment:
Every time you
focus on the negative spaces in your life -
- the invitation you didn't get…
- the date who never called back…
- the people you helped - or gave
gifts to - who didn't thank you…
- the friend who forgot your birthday…
You get the idea - all of us CAN add to
this list and backpack these dissatisfactions…
OR…
Each time one of these things happen you
could remind yourself that (you think I am going to tell you to count your
blessings right? Nope!)...
Instead remind yourself what idiots
those people are - and how much they've missed out on!
The idea here is that when others do
these things we tend to fault ourselves and feel diminished.
REALLY BAD THINKING!
'They' lost out - NOT YOU!
Two more fun ways to join our Human Dance
party:
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