Although difficult for us humans to really grasp, our ability to control all the variables that would make life safe for those we love is truly limited.
No matter how hard we try there are always things out of our control.
This lack of total control tends to frighten us - and fear is the most predictable trigger for our inner Bully.
When something goes wrong we scold ourselves listing all the potential dangers we should have been on top of…
Not only does this behavior intensify our inability to handle what ever is going on, but it also has a tendency to create more obstacles for moving forward.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun
Think about a recent challenging situation you've gone through - something that affected you or someone you love.
1) How did you respond?
2) Were you aware of an underlying fear?
3) Was part of your fear concern that you'd miss a beat?
4) Did you believe that you could make everything okay if only…
5) Did you bully yourself or the other person? (Clue: did you use the words 'SHOULD, SHOULD HAVE?)
Two more fun ways to join our Human Dance party: