Ever notice how the movie 'fixer' ends up at the bottom of the lake?
Although useful, this character knows where all the bodies are buried and ends up being resented.
Family 'fixers' always think they are being helpful, but end up being resented, too.
Who takes this role in our families?
It's the parent who says 'Be nice to your little sister', thus getting in the way of healthy sibling rivalry, or the older sibling who is given the role of making sure everyone else is taken care of.
It's the 'make nice' person who absorbs and hides the flaws of others.
Thinking they are doing the right thing, they end up being resented, and, inevitably, resenting the burden they carry!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN FAMILY SET UP.
Was there anyone who:
Covered up for others?
Told you to make excuses for others?
Bribed you (ice cream, extra allowance) to overlook someone else's behavior?
What do you think would have happened without the 'fixing'?
See if you can remember an event where the 'fix' was in.
Re-run the event 'fix' free.