What creates meanness?
Are some people just born that way?
There are lots of theories about this from psychologists to social anthropologists.
We can certainly look at what people copy and learn from their environment growing up…
The real issue is - regardless of where this behavior comes from - taking responsibility in the present both as the meany and the receiver of mean!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
STRATEGIES FOR DEALING WITH MEAN
1) No excuses! If you're doing it, own it! It is not the other persons fault!
2) If you are on the receiving end see it for what it is! It doesn't matter why that person is acting that way - mean is not okay!
3) As a 'doer' try to figure out what's going on with you. Look for what you are angry about and find less corrosive ways of fixing it!
4) As a receiver, make a formula that you can live with about how others should treat you. Some people find it difficult to see things with clarity, but maybe you can make a deal with yourself. Perhaps something like: 3 strikes and they are out!