"If I just keep trying," we tell ourselves.
"Try harder," we demand.
With these words we bully ourselves into holding on to beliefs and positions that are way past their expiration dates.
We get stubborn: "I can make this work!"
We get defiant: "I know this is the right way!"
In the end, we often hold ourselves responsible: "It's my fault it's not working!" we moan, blaming ourselves instead of an antiquated belief.
What we accept as true in our childhood is often crucial for our survival - which can easily give these beliefs a special, dug in, power.
It's interesting to think about how much changes for us as we mature and what gets stuck!
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
Think about your own self defeating behaviors and beliefs…
Make a list of the things you tell yourself about the world and your place in it…
Think about how - and perhaps when - you learned this attitude.
Did you hear someone say this was the truth?
See someone behave this way?
Imagine talking to that person about how their attitude affected you.
What would you say?
Now make a list of the behaviors and beliefs that you might want to let go…
What do you feel as you do this?