Remember that expression 'knee-jerk
reaction'?
When we create mandates - all those 'shoulds' - we often trigger that type of reaction.
There ae verbal triggers:
you should, you have to, now, or else.
And non-verbal cues: time limits and drop dead dates.
We often unconsciously perceived all of these as unrealistic demands - and we respond with a resounding 'NO'!
Our 'no' can take two forms: we can
rebel (it's not fair, you can't make me, don't push)
or
We can switch to our victim voice (I
can't, it's too hard, I am suffering).
The interesting thing to realize is
that both responses are attempts to push back what we are experiencing (realistic
or not) as unhealthy demands.
DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…
Think of the last time you were in
this position: reacting in opposition to an internal or external demand.
Can you imagine hearing that demanding voice
now?
Try exaggerating
it.
Visualize the
demanding presence. Give it a face
(mean?) a color (red?)
Now become that
voice.
Really get into
it…
Now switch to the responder.
First play this part
as a Rebel - again exaggerate and really get into it.
Now respond as
the poor Victim.
What happens as
you play this out?
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