SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - TCOY*

*Taking care of yourself…

When expectations are not in line with reality, we suffer!

This is a no-brainer.

In order not to set yourself up in this way, it's important to pay attention to who you are dealing with and what they can actually give you in any particular moment.

Sometimes we get confused because we see someone give something to someone else and assume that it is there for us also.

Or,they actually have given it to us before, but don't do it now…

All of this requires awareness on our part- rememebering that there is BIG difference between what we desire and what someone else may be capable of providing!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

'TCOY' STRATEGIES

Understand who the other person is and what they can actually offer in this moment.

This might be different then what they give someone else or have given you in the past.

Pay attention to this moment in time.  What do you need right now and who might be able to help you with it?

Watch out for anger - yours and other peoples.  Leaving yourself open to jabs from others - or jabbing them - because you want something you are not getting is not okay!

Find a way to ask for what you need - indirect is okay only if the message is getting through.