SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - TIME FOR A CHANGE!

Not reporting an assault…not telling anyone.

Hiding the details of abusive relationships…

Smiling through pain…

Pretending awful parents are loving and kind…

Why do we do this?

Anyone who has ever been through it and survived can tell you the answer:

We try to make intolerable situations, where we feel no power, tolerable, by making up excuses for those who have harmed us or by taking the blame ourselves…

How did we learn to 'cover up' for others in this way?

Usually by being told that whatever went wrong was our fault, by understanding that no one would believe us, and that we would be punished for speaking up!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WE CAN NOT EVOLVE AS HUMANS IF WE KEEP IGNORING AND ATTACKING THE VICTIMS AND HIDING FROM THE TRUTH!

TOGETHER WE ALL NEED TO TAKE STEPS TO CHANGE THIS TRULY DIRE BEHAVIOR!

AFTER THE BOMB

Why do we pretend everything is okay when it's not?

Did you ever hear stories about people in Hiroshima after the bomb going out on the street with brooms to sweep up the debris?  True or not, it's a strange story, right?  

In order to survive 'intact' we humans have a tremendous need to normalize things - to make it all okay - even if it means acting as if the bad thing didn't happen.

What do ya say?

You can understand why we do this, right?

Can you also understand that it never really works to make it okay?

HI THERE!

Ever feel like you have a part in you that is centered and wise and so logical and practical and concrete, and another part - certainly a mutant creature - that goes waaay off base?

What do ya say?

Do you know these two characters?

Ever let them 'talk' to each other?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - OWN IT ALL!

Sometimes it's the things we envy in someone else…

Sometimes it's the things we say we hate in them.

Sometimes it's their anger, or their competitiveness, or their laziness, or even their greed…

It's always things we've labeled as 'bad' and deny in ourselves.

But

Humans are multifaceted.

The more we acknowledge all the parts of who we are the less we are controlled by trying to hide them!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

WHOO ARE YOU?

Remember that message from 'Alice in Wonderland'?

What do you think would happen if you owned it all?

Think about someone you interacted with recently who got under your skin.

What about them got to you?

What would happen if you identified that same 'annoying' part of them in yourself?

Might it make dealing with them easier?

SHANA TOVA 5778

The Jewish New Year is a time of recognizing dualities…

A time of darkness and light…

We welcome new beginnings and we reflect on past missteps. 

We prepare for moving forward - smarter and stronger and more honest…

By 'owning' all our personal 'dimensions' we make ourselves stronger and are able to give more, allowing us to create balance in ourselves - and the Universe.

What do ya say?  Do you get this?

For a fun look check out:   

http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-reasons-luke-shouldve-joined-dark-side/

9/11

IN MEMORIAM

DO YOU REMEMBER WHERE YOU WERE?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - REVISIONIST HISTORY

Sex is bad now - it used to be great...

Health is bad now - it used to be great...

Memory is bad now - it used to be great...

It all used to be so great!

Really?

Interesting to think about what people get from re-writing history.

Perhaps part of it has to do with not owning up to the fact that the problem is in you - not the externals?

How much responsibility do you actually take for what is wrong in your life?

Not 'blame' - responsibility!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

DO YOU MAKE EXCUSES?  BLAME IT ON THOSE EXTERNALS?

Think about some of the things you complain about now.

What do you blame them on?

How many of these things have been constants in your life?

What purpose do you think they serve?

What do you imagine your life would be like if you gave these beliefs up?

GOT LONG EARLOBES?

Did you know that long earlobes are considered a sign of spirituality?

And here I bet you thought they were just due to collagen loss with aging…

Ever notice how people constantly blame everything on aging starting around the age of 30?  And of course make it all negative...

What do ya say?

Wouldn't it be more fun to look on the bright side?