Realistic expectations are crucial in human emotional dealing and
healing.
When something happens that 'gets under our skin' it's usually for a
good reason!
Sometimes it's because it is totally unexpected and we feel
blindsided. In these cases we hold onto
it as if that will allow us to be prepared the next time something hits out of
the blue.
Sometimes an incident is difficult to walk away from because it taps into
old unfinished family drama. Once we
realize what old story it is tapping into we can use it to help us take a step
in healing the old wound.
And sometimes something happens that challenges our view of how things should be in the world! These experiences are particularly difficult
because in order to resolve them we have to revise our own beliefs!
The most important - and beneficial - aspect of unfinished business is
to see it as a potential opportunity for personal growth!
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun ideas…
WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
Do you find yourself
re-running the 'film' of something that happened in the past?
Are you repeating
the same scenes again and again?
Do you say the same
lines in your head as you imagine the incident?
If so you might
think of yourself as 'STUCK'!
To un-stuck:
Play with the story!
Run the 'film' of
the event backwards! Yes, you can!
At this point in time it really is your story
and you can manipulate it any way you want…
Imagine what you might
do differently if the last scene played first.
Change your
lines! This story now belongs to you and
you can be as outrageous as you want!
Change the scenery,
the costumes.
The idea of this manipulation is to empower
yourself and realize that once the actual event is over all that remains is the
story you are telling yourself - and you have a lot of control of your
self-talk!
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