Many animal species define their 'home range' with what are called 'sign
posts' - messages that other animals can read in order to avoid creating
conflict and aggression. read more
In order to take care of ourselves and create a sense of security in our
lives, we humans need to be aware that personal boundaries are very important
to us. The more conscious we become of
our need to create and reinforce our boundaries the safer and more respected we
feel.
Obviously, humans don't create these markers by spraying like some other
animal species. Our markers are more
verbal. They are also indicated by body
language and facial expression.
As much as it seems a paradox, the more tuned in to creating healthy personal
space we are, the more comfortable we become with intimacy and sharing!
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun ideas…
Part of our sense of physical security is
created by the 'boundaries' we set up between ourselves and others. Even in very intimate relationships we need
healthy boundaries.
Here are some questions to ask yourself
as you think about boundaries:
1) Auditory
How much noise or silence do you need
to feel comfortable?
In your own home?
At a meal?
In the gym or other public place?
2) Visual
How much visual 'load' creates a sense
of comfort for you?
3) Physical proximity
In some cultures people stand right
next to each other.
In
others we
step back. How close or far from others
- friends? strangers? - creates the most comfort for you?
What can you do to ensure the degree of
boundaries you need?
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