Showing posts with label emotional dumping. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotional dumping. Show all posts

Friday, January 22, 2016

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - CALM DOWN?

Why do people tell us to calm down?

Simple:  They don't want to hear it or deal with it!

So, is it okay for them to say: 'Don't yell at me'?
Sure.

As long as they add that it's about them and not you.

  


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Sitting on anxiety (anger!) = added stress!

So, what to do?
Find a 'voice', a way of acknowledging what you are feeling without 'sliming' those around you - even if you think it's their fault!

Yelling is pretty toxic and usually won't get good results - unless you see an bug, snake or maybe even a bear…

Saying 'OMG this is a disaster' is fine.
You get the drift!







Wednesday, July 29, 2015

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - DEFUSING DARK CLOUDS

To neutralize a toxic substance you are exposed to it helps to know its ingredients. 

It is an interesting phenomenon that humans usually look for their own 'fault' in whatever happens.  'How did that happen?' our parents ask us during our childhoods.  'What did you do?'

With Dark Cloud People it is important to realize that most of the time you are irrelevant to the mix… 

Dark Cloud People carry an enveloping cloud of anger with them that can contaminate everything that it comes in contact with.  

This anger comes from all their perceived hurts, insults, lack of acknowledgement, and sustained emotional injuries throughout their lifetimes. 

Heavy. 

When they dump that cloud on someone else they feel a sense of relief!



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PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM THE CLOUD BURST

Sometimes we are in a position to totally avoid these bad news folks…but sometimes they walk into our lives in the guise of family, office mates, neighbors…

Hubris (you know that arrogance of ours that makes us think that we are truly unique and can handle anything) often allows us to see how the Dark Cloud Person is raining their toxic mix down on others, but leads us to believe that we will be spared. 

False!  Sooner or later this barrage of poison will be directed at you…

To protect yourself:
1)  See it coming. 
2)  Recognize that you are not immune - it's just a matter of time!
3)  Don't look for your fault!
4)  Duck! 




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