SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THAT'S THE WAY TO SAY GOODBYE…

On some level we really do know when it's time to go - or let go - whether it's of a relationship, a place, a job, or a thing.

We experience the frustration of trying and not getting results, or we perceive anger coming at us that we are unable to understand or circumvent.

However, often, even though we know it's really finished, we hang on, hoping that somehow a miracle will occur and we won't have to say goodbye…

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EXIT STRATEGIES

1)  Give it your best shot.

2)  Tell yourself you did give it your all.

3)  Acknowledge your gains - what have you already gotten?

4)  Acknowledge what you haven't gotten and ask yourself if it is really available.

5)  Admit the sadness and anger that comes with having to let go.

6)  Repeat that mantra about one door closing and another opening as you say goodbye! 

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - HEY, THAT'S NO WAY…

Remember that farewell scene from The Sound of Music?  listen

And how about that beautiful song about leaving by Leonard Cohen?

listen

Our lives are definitely filled with goodbyes.  

We bid adieu to:

Teachers, friends, family members, lovers, and the places that make up our changing realities…

Think about it.

Each of these goodbyes is actually a transition.  

Check out this definition:  tran·si·tion/tranˈziSH(ə)n,tranˈsiSH(ə)n/

Noun  the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another…

Transitions are difficult for humans!  We have no guarantees of what we will find on the other side of change. 

We fear that whatever it is might be worse than what we are leaving.  

Often when we are the one choosing to leave we worry about those we are 'deserting' and how they will react.

Unfortunately, we learn how to handle this on-going and important life process mostly by trial and error!

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...

MAKING IT THROUGH THE PORTAL OF CHANGE

Think about some of the early changes that occurred in your life.

A new sibling?

A family move?

Changing from one grade to another, a new school?

How did your parents help you deal with these changes?

Looking back on it now, what did you have to say 'goodbye' to, in order to take a next step in your life?

What feelings went along with the changes?

Once you made it to the new reality, how did you deal with any sense of loss?

How do you think these early 'goodbyes' affected the way you leave people and places today? 

Are you still using the same model for moving through transitions that you learned as a youngster, or have you learned a new, perhaps healthier, way of leaving?

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BIRDS DO IT…

No, not that!

This is about that fascinating phenomena we attribute to birds but see all the time in humans…  Fouling or spoiling the nest when it's time to leave.

Here are three stories:

"I just don't get it!  My granddaughter has been such a delight in our lives.  We are there for her 100% and now, suddenly, she acts like we are the devil!  We seem to annoy her constantly… and she is downright mean!"

"My boyfriend has suddenly changed.  He picks fights with me all the time and for things that never bothered him before!  I feel like he wants to break up but when I ask him he looks at me as if I were nuts!"

"This woman has been working for us for years.  I thought we had a good relationship but now she comes to work out of it and angry.  She drops things and breaks things and barely apologizes… I just don't get it!"

What do you think might be the common denominator in all three stories?

A hint:  

The objects of these stories are all dealing with leaving - the city, the job, school, and having a difficult time dealing with it!

What do ya say?

How do you handle saying goodbye?

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