WHO'S TALKING NOW?

The man sitting in the chair was talking about a problem with his wife.

"I really can't stand my wife!  She is not worthy of someone like me…"

His eyes popped open.

"OMG, "he gasped.  "I can't believe I just said that!  That is totally my mother's voice!  She never liked my wife!"

And listen to this one:

"I know," she insisted, "exactly what you mean!"

"You are telling me I am acting like a spoiled, self-indulgent child!"

"Don't tell me that's not what you mean!  I know what I heard…"

Guess whose voice she was actually hearing? 

Yup.  Her mother's voice - definitely not the person actually in the room with her…

Does any of this sound familiar?

What do ya say?

Can you see how holding onto old 'sound bytes' and replaying them in the present moment can really burn you?

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING

Hearing is believed to be  one of our most important senses – again looking at evolution and survival of the species – we could hear those predators coming at us before we saw them…

Scientists are understanding more and more the impact that sound and language have on our lives.

Hypnotherapists, who use their voices to help us heal, stress how careful they have to be in their use of language.  When we are in a trance state it is believed that our brain may not process negatives.  Think about what happens when you say, “Don’t sit!” to your dog.  Ever wonder why he plops right down?

Perhaps when we are talking to each other we are always in a ‘trance state’…



DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...


How do you ‘double check’ your verbal out-going messages?   Computers have spell and grammar checks.  What do you use?

For one day, or even one hour for those of us who are ‘focus challenged’, double check your communication.   How?
           
      
 Use your eyes:
           
           Does the visual response you are getting match what you’d expect?

If it seems off, try re-stating – remember louder doesn’t do it!

And neither does repeating the same words…

Try:

“I’m not sure I communicated that  well, what I meant to say was…”

                                              

                                               Or

“I think I gave you the wrong idea, what I meant was…”

Lots of variations on this theme – try your own and let us know the results!

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