SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - LISTEN TO ME!

What is it that compels us to tell others what to do?

Is it a desire to help?

To be heard?

To feel smart?

To empower ourselves?

And really how often is it solicited?b

How often is it listened to?

DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS                           

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas…

GIVING ADVICE?

Think about how you feel when others tell you what you should do…

     How often do you take their advice?

     How useful is this type of interaction?

     How do you feel when you 'help' others in this way?

     What happens when the advice is 'bad'?

     Who suffers the consequences?

    

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING –THEY MEAN WELL…

How many times have you said, “They mean well, but I sure wish they’d stop with the advice”?

And on the other hand – how many times have you jumped in with ‘solutions’ when someone else is talking about their problems?

The gap between acknowledging a problem and solving it seems to make us all very anxious – whether it’s our problem or someone else’s!

In reality that interval, if we don’t short-cut it, or judge it, allows us to experience the feelings connected to our problems. 

Experiencing our feelings seems to have an important role in how we actually effectively problem solve.








DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...

NEXT TIME SOMEONE STARTS TELLING YOU ABOUT A PROBLEM GIVE THIS A TRY:

            Consciously take some deep breaths

            

            Count to 10

            

            Just listen

           

            “Wow”, “hmmm”, “really”, “gee” are all allowed

            

            Nothing else

            

Remember this is an experiment

What happens to you as you do this?

What do you feel?

What kind of response do you get from the other person?

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