WE NEED TO TALK… A FABLE

Once upon a time a very young woman was on an archaeological dig in a land far, far away. 

Witnessing misbehavior on the part of the leader, an older and much venerated man, she determined that she would set him straight… No problem, right? 

Obviously he needed to be told what he was doing wrong!

So, our heroine righteously marched herself into his tent to fix the situation…

 

Ever see a bull react to a red cape?  

Whoa!  Rolling his eyes and snorting with rage he kicked her off the dig - and demanded she take her poor innocent roommate with her!

Now, 18 year olds are not famous for being strategic, but what do ya say?

Shouldn't she have seen this one coming?

Wouldn't you?

At 18?

How about now?

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING –THEY MEAN WELL…

How many times have you said, “They mean well, but I sure wish they’d stop with the advice”?

And on the other hand – how many times have you jumped in with ‘solutions’ when someone else is talking about their problems?

The gap between acknowledging a problem and solving it seems to make us all very anxious – whether it’s our problem or someone else’s!

In reality that interval, if we don’t short-cut it, or judge it, allows us to experience the feelings connected to our problems. 

Experiencing our feelings seems to have an important role in how we actually effectively problem solve.








DANCE WITH IT!   EXPERIENTIAL APPS

An opportunity to experiment with some fun ideas...

NEXT TIME SOMEONE STARTS TELLING YOU ABOUT A PROBLEM GIVE THIS A TRY:

            Consciously take some deep breaths

            

            Count to 10

            

            Just listen

           

            “Wow”, “hmmm”, “really”, “gee” are all allowed

            

            Nothing else

            

Remember this is an experiment

What happens to you as you do this?

What do you feel?

What kind of response do you get from the other person?

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