What does it mean to be 'in control'?
Most of us struggle with this concept.
Where is the balance between being that hated control freak, and on the
other hand losing control?
The healthy position - the least stressful and least harmful - seems to
be when we realize that, as adults, the only person who we can healthily
control is our own self.
We can make decisions about our lives and do our very best to fulfill
these desires - we can work to create balance in our lives which might be the
best part of being in control of our daily existence.
We can also step back from the 'ing' part of this verb and recognize
that we don't and won't get very far trying to take on this task in the lives
of others - certainly not once they are past the age of… consent!
Check out these two interesting quotes about control:
"The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely
tenacity…. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and
control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward." Amelia Earhart
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DANCE WITH IT! EXPERIENTIAL APPS
An opportunity to
experiment with some fun ideas…
WHERE IS THE LINE BETWEEN HEALTHY CONTROL
AND BULLYING?
Think about a time when you felt pushed to
do something by another person.
Who did the pushing?
How did you feel about them?
Did you do what they wanted?
How did that make you feel?
Were you able to push back?
How did that feel?
Now think about a time when you were
doing the controlling.
How did you feel about the person you
were pushing?
Did they listen to you?
Did they appreciate what you were doing?
And finally think about a time that you
became rigid in your attempts at self control.
Did you accomplish what you wanted?
How did you end up feeling?
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