SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - MAKING BELIEVE?

Somehow we get fed a bunch of distortions about the nature of humans and human families is particular.

Happy People

Happy Families

Happy endings

Nice stories but they have a tendency to blind us to reality and set us up for so much disappointment and 'reality crashes'!

When we buy into these stories it's like wearing blinders to what is actually in front of us…until the moment we fall into that rabbit hole and have no choice!

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REALITY -WHAT A CONCEPT!

Repeat after me:
Humans are not perfect - and that's reality!

Most of us have been strongly impacted by our history - and that's reality!

If we believe in the 'should' of perfection we often miss what is actually going on around us - AND THAT IS REALITY!

RETROGRADE MEMORY

'Those were the best years of my life…'

'We were so close…'

'I always thought you were wonderful…'

HAH!

Are you kidding me?

Make it NOW!

Or…

Let it go!

What do ya say?

Do you get this one?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE 'CON'- PART II

Yesterday's post about 'Fakin' It' got a lot of responses…

"But wait," they demanded, "are you saying this is bad?"

And here's another one:

"Hey, sometimes faking it is all you've got!  It can be a major survival move…"

And finally:

"I hate it when those big smile people turn on the charm in my direction!  Do they really think I'm so stupid that I can't see that one coming?"

Interesting responses, right?

Maybe this one doesn't have to be so rigid?

Maybe the answer lies in being aware of what you are doing - or buying into - and why?

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There are times we consciously buy into 'cons'…

Think movies and books.

Ask yourself when's the last time you read a totally fake story or watched one of those bogus movies and came away smiling?

Now ask yourself what the payoff was?

Did the 'con' make you criticize your own reality and feel bad about yourself?

Or

Did it create a momentary reprieve from daily life that allowed you to return to your own reality feeling refreshed?

When you watched the magician saw that lady in half you knew enough not to go home and try it yourself, right?

WELL, DUH…

So, they did a study - you know, spent big bucks to figure out some otherwise unknown fact…

This one, after much research, stated that distance from a store selling tobacco products seemed to reduce the frequency of buying them. read more

No, I am not kidding!

But wait, it gets better.

Guess where this study was conducted?

Finland.

 

Where winter has periods of continuous darkness and temperatures can drop as low as -50C (-58F??) with snow and ice covering parts of the country from December to April…    Finland weather     

Uh huh. 

So, what's in this one for the rest of us?

Think about all those self evident, manifest, 'duh' situations you encounter.

What do ya say?

Do you need a million dollar study to acknowledge the obvious in your own life?

NO! I TOLD YOU! IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!

So, here we go again.

Yeah.  I know we've been here before…

But really.

This is such a big one.

OTHER'S PEOPLE BEHAVIOR IS NOT ABOUT YOU!

If they are nice, that's their M.O.!

Rotten - yup - the same! Them…

No matter how hard you try you really can't control that river!

What do ya say?

Can you see how much simpler life could be?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - REALITY? WHAT A CONCEPT!

Remember yesterday's post?  

'Get a grip' ...means that the speaker believes that the person being spoken to is not thinking straight: … it is usually addressed to someone who doesn't understand the obvious…"

http://english.stackexchange.com/questions/38473/meaning-and-origin-of-get-a-grip

Why do we hold on to our fantasies about how others will behave in the face of concrete reality that points in the opposite direction? 

Maybe part of it is our fear about what we would feel if we allowed ourselves to see the truth.

What do you think would happen?

  

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REMEMBER THOSE THREE MONKEYS?  THE ONES WITH THEIR HANDS OVER THEIR EYES, MOUTH AND EARS…

Think about 2 or 3 examples of YOU refusing to face who someone else really is and how they are most likely to act towards you.

         
          Maybe a parent?

          A sibling?

          A friend?

          Lover?

          Spouse?

In each example ask yourself:

What happened?

What did they do?

How did you react?

Would the story have changed if you 'saw it coming' - if you had allowed yourself to face how this person was most likely to act?

What's in it for you to hold onto the fantasy?

What does it do for you?

AND FINALLY ... DECIDE IF IT MIGHT BE OKAY TO LET IT GO…

          
Totally up to you…

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The Human Dance "Beat the Bully!" Episode VIII

GET A GRIP!

How many times can we be surprised by totally predictable behavior?

Listen in to two complaint sessions…

"I can not believe," she was almost in tears, "that she criticized me again!  After all I've done for her!"

"Really," I asked.  "Has she ever done it before?"

"Well... yes... but I thought this time it would be different…"

Seriously lady, get a grip!

And then there was this one...

"So," he complained with a really bewildered look, "my friend Tom just blew me off and made plans with someone else.  I had been looking forward to this trip for a really long time…"

"Has he ever done that to you before?" I asked him.

"Well, no… not to me…"

Seriously buddy - get a grip!  Did you really think you were immune?

We laugh at Charlie Brown and Lucy and that football…

Can Charlie really be so… what's the word?

No, I am not going to say 'stupid'!

How about out of touch with reality?

What do ya say?

Been down this road?

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The Human Dance "Beat the Bully!" Episode VIII

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - REALITY CHECK

How many times have you heard - or said - "I really love him/her- if only they would…"

We all need and want dreams - they are the pots of gold at the end of the rainbow that keep us going - promising smiles and rewards for our journey's end.

However, and this is a big one - we also have to differentiate between NOW and THEN, between what's in front of us - reality - and what might one day be - fantasy!

And no, if you are reading this, you really can't be a horse when you grow up!

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TAKING DISAPPOINTMENT OUT OF THE EQUATION BY SEEING THE REAL DEAL…

1)  Take inventory:  Who are you?  Who are they?  What is the situation?  RIGHT NOW?

2)  Call it like it is:  Can you tolerate the situation?

3)  If the answer is yes, great, if no:  find a way to extricate yourself. 

    

      The bullets don't stop because you want them to!

      DUCK AND GET OUT OF DODGE!

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