SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE GIFT OF POO

Here's the deal:  Instead of jumping all over your own case when you step in it - again - play detective!

Accept that there is a reason for the repeated trip and fall - it is obviously something unfinished.

Accept that this means that this particular bump promises new learning!

New learning - understanding and unraveling the 'why's' of a particular behavior - allows us to release that particular hook and move on - always creating more freedom and self empowerment!

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UNTYING THE KNOT

Ask yourself:

What is this about?

What is it about me?

What can I learn?

How do I get smarter and stronger by understanding this?

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - RENEWING VOWS

Life isn't linear - no matter what we've been led to believe - or even hoped for!

A wonderful and more realistic image is the ocean's waves moving on the sand of a beach.  They get close, they move away, they get a little closer… and then they pull back until the whole thing starts all over again.

Even pro-athletes go through slumps, catch their breaths, maybe re-think their strategy and then get back in the game.

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GETTING BACK IN THE GAME

Try this:

The minute you commit to a goal, 'hire' your own personal inner cheerleader.

This is the part of you that always has your back.

Typical cheerleader sayings:

'Yes you can!'

'Hang in there!'

'It's ok!'

If you don't know this part of yourself now's a great time to find it!

You can 'borrow' the voice of someone supportive in your life, or take a sound that you like from the media.

          How would this part of you look?

          What would it say?

          Where would you position it? 

          In a particular room?  

On your shoulder?  In your head?  At your back?

          

Would your cheerleader always be there and accessible, or get triggered at certain moments?

HAVE SOME FUN CREATING THIS IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR INTERNAL SUPPORT SYSTEM

SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - THE ART OF FALLING

The very first lesson our Chinese Martial Arts instructor taught us was how to fall…

And the very first lesson our German ski instructor taught us was… how to fall.

Interesting convergence of wisdom East and West…

If you are in the sport you have to develop the ability to fall! 

Here's an interesting way to think about it:  Momentum, especially forward momentum, comes with an equal pull of gravity…

To survive and thrive, part of our job is to gracefully fall and rebound.

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…ALL FALL DOWN?

So what are some survival strategies when it feels like the life tsunami hits?  Check out these possibilities…

Revert to age two and throw up your hands in the air, stomp and scream. 

Or…

Take a page from the book of your favorite sailor and swear up a blue storm, creatively of course…

And then there's always…

Kick something inanimate…

The idea here is to do something - short term - to relieve some of the anger we feel when it all falls apart - giving yourself permission to feel the frustration and release it.

The next step is to find a way to mentally separate the elements that you need to deal with so that it doesn't feel like you are under an earth slide. 

Make a list with priorities and give yourself a gold star each time you deal with something even if it isn't completed. 

When things go off kilter we tend to give ourselves a hard time on top of everything else - to have our internal bully voices triggered. 

We need to balance this by invoking our inner BFF to pat us on the back and smile at even the tiny steps forward - it's how we build that momentum again!

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SERIOUSLY SPEAKING - DEALING WITH EMPTY PLACES

Many times in our lives things change - loss occurs - with or with out our 'help'.

It is important for our healthy emotional survival to acknowledge and recognize the loss and how it is affecting us - not to try to deny its impact - but also to recognize that our natural genetic programming is to move forward.

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HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH EMPTY PLACES...  DON'T HIDE FROM REALITY!  TELL IT LIKE IT IS!

·       Acknowledge the loss/lack

·       Recognize what created the loss (was it in your control?)

·       Explore the underlying need

·       Create a healthy substitute

Here's a simple example: 

Let's say for one reason or another you 'lose' your job.  Maybe by choice, or maybe not. 

To walk through the above steps, you would first acknowledge that something is different in your life - it feels different.  

Next you recognize how much of this change was in your control and how you feel about this.  Deal with your feelings. 

Then look at the underlying need that the job addressed.  Did it provide self-esteem?  Create structure in your life? 

Finally, ask yourself if you still need what it gave you.  If the answer is yes, don't rip yourself off - find your next 'job' to meet those needs.

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